EMOTIONAL ATYACHAR: FAILURE TO UNDERSTAND LOVE

LOVE comes from the hindi word "lobh" which means greed.

PEOPLE FEEL THAT THEY ARE IN LOVE WITH EACH OTHER.

But they fool themselves because they are asking for love in return. A boy cries in front of girl for love and girl feels miserable for the boy accepts him. One beggar accepting the other beggar for a life partner. But what happens, everything gets screwed and love runs from back door and only sadness prevails. Love has always been misunderstood. Love is taken granted as being one's sole right from the other person. One loves other to receive love in exchange of love. Its a kind of bargain. Parents love their kids so that they can provide them support when they are old. See it is bargain. Everybody wants to possess the other person. They want to keep the feeling in tact by force or cultural rituals like marriage.

In our country parents fool their kids by prisoning them in a institution called marriage. Arrange marriages are such stupid acts. But so called love marriages are also mistakes made by two adults. Without knowing their soulmates they enter marriage and after 3 years curse them for their foolish act. And then they search soulmates in other women. Some are more miserable who search love in brothels or other woman. They are always searching till their last breath. They say that soulmates are in stories. Because they want to satisfy their ego that they are on right path.

In my view everyone should give a try finding a true soulmate. In one's lifetime, one will surely get in touch with his or her soulmate but they fail to recognize him or her. The waiting is the only thing one should do. Take your time, feel from heart and ask your soul whether this person is my soulmate if not move on. But don't apply your brain. Because brain will tell you all things except love. Love is task of heart and soul not brain. But what a pity nowadays people apply brains in finding their soulmate and make their life hell.

I regularly watch "Emotional Atayachar", and feel pity for them who goes to EA team for loyalty test. Because I feel that these persons make bigger mistakes instead of those who cheat them. They don't trust their lovemates and go for surveillance of other person. With love every person also wants freedom. Freedom and love takes a toll to stay together. People fail to understand that true love is just giving and giving without any kind of expectation. Being happy in love is what soul wants. Love is spiritual not physical. No matter how much you mate biologically but what matters is mating of souls. The more freedom you give to your mate the more chances of getting her/him as soulmate. Two persons in love can free themselves from birth cycle which makes them immortal -"A true soul of god". Pure love leads one to mediation and through meditation you get salvation.

"Man is meditation and women is love, together they make Love as Meditation."- OSHO

LOVE UNCONDITIONALLY.

LOVE SPIRITUALLY.

LOVE YOUR SOULMATE.

ARYAN

Conditioning of Women Mind

A girl unconsciously get her mind conditioned as her mother because every child spends maximum time with her mother. So a girl child also gathers much from what her mother has given or told her. This mother has lived a life where she had only anger, frustration and slavery as man had control over her. This same thing is being passed over to her daughter where she reacts the same way when she meets a man. So women get rid of the conditioning that your mom has sub consciously given to you. You have accepted it unconsciously. The way to get rid of it is to become conscious of it. It is a good beginning that you have asked. This is the beginning of consciousness-just the very ABC. You have to go far to change your mind completely, to be fresh, unconditioned, open and vulnerable.

And because of this conditioning you have been playing this ugly game, that whenever a man comes close to you with his love, you run away, which naturally encourages him to chase you. That you enjoy, that he is chasing you. Every woman enjoys that. It is ugly, and you are not aware of its deeper implications. It means you are the prey; the man is the hunter and he is chasing game. You are allowing supremacy to the man, unknowingly. It has been traditionally given to you that the initiative in love should be taken by men, not women; it is against a woman's grace. Those are all rotten ideas-why be number two from the beginning? If you love a man, why wait? I know many women who have waited for years because they wanted the man to take initiative. But they fallen in love with such men who were not going to take the initiative.

There is really no reason for the women to wait for the men to take the initiative. If a woman feels love for someone, she should take the initiative and she should not feel humiliated if the man is not willing. this will give them equality. these are small things that will make the liberation of women possible.

But the women has been always trying yo be "game". She attracts the man, she tries in every way to attract him by her beauty, by her clothes, her perfume, her hairdo-all that she can manage. She attracts the man, and once the man is attracted she starts running away. But she does not run too fast, either. She goes on looking back, to see whether that fellow is coming or not. If he is left far behind, she waits. When he comes close again she starts running.

This is stupid; love should be a clean affair. You love someone, you express your love and tell the other person, "You are not obliged to say yes; your no will be perfectly respected. It is just my desire. Yu need not unwillingly say yes to me, because that yes is dangerous unless you also feel love for me. Only then can our life become a completion."

A woman and a man in love can move into meditation very easily,.. meditation and love are such clsoe phenomenon that if you really fall in love with someone who loves you, your meditatiive energies start growing; they are very deeply joined experiences. Hence, i favor of both.