How to Tell if You've Found Your Ultimate Soulmate, or Twin Flame
An article describing the nuances of twin flame love and the ultimate soul mate; how to spot if you are with such a mate, and how to summon such a mate.
For anyone who has ever been in love, or dreamed of being in love, an age-old question often prevails through time and the pondering of one's mind: is he/she my soul mate? Are they the one? What if I were to tell you that there is a way to know? What if I were to tell you that there are universal similarities across all soul mates and twin flames which are significant and profound? Well, this is very true. Everyone has a soul mate, or several, and one twin flame. A soul mate is someone who may have shared a past life connection with you, or come from the same cluster of souls when yours was breathed/formed into life. It is possible for a person to have many soul mates. Twin flames, however, are much more rare and difficult to come by. Twin flames are the other half of a person's soul; the yin to their yang, the feminine to the masculine, etc, etc. A twin flame is the ultimate soul mate, the one we are naturally seeking throughout our lifespan and the one we will be with on our last life on earth; with whom we shall ascend with. At least this is what the doctors, psychologists and psychics who share an interest in such a concept say in agreement.
When a soul is created it is split into two separate souls which embody the masculine and feminine. These are the twin flames. It is said that these two flames descend upon earth and take on different lives, reincarnate and grow as individuals, each having completely different experiences. It is believed that a soul must experience every human experience before ascending and the twin flames often share opposite experiences due to this so as to gain enough experience, thus ascending faster. There are, however, often similarities as well. Once the twin flames grow enough as individuals, they will meet and come together. This is a very intense situation. It is also said that this is becoming much more frequent of an occurrence since our advancements in the fields of psychology and self-help are allowing people to grow and evolve much faster. The union and purpose of twin flames is often to perform the work of God or the ultimate life-force/energy for the betterment of the world and/or service work. More and more twin flames are becoming united right now in human history than ever before.
Our twin flame embodies the other half of our soul, so if a person isn't happy within him/herself, they will often dislike and have discord with their twin soul, as it is a reflection of their own. It is said that twin flames rarely incarnate at the same time, so finding yourself a twin flame can be incredibly rare. One should not lose hope, however, as the twin will often act as guardian angel from above, and each relationship we have is seen as practice to prepare us for our twin: the ultimate relationship. When twins are united there may be extraordinary circumstances such as an age difference or that one or both of them are already married or in a committed relationship. When this happens it is best to honor the other's arrangements as it could spawn negative karma if tampered with in an unruly manner.
Upon meeting one's twin it is said that there is an immediate connection and attraction toward each other. This is much like a love at first sight occurrence. Romeo and Juliet were said to be twin flames, meeting in inopportune situations and not being able to live without the other. The energy felt between twins is much like an explosion. Soul mates who are not twins will feel similar energy, but less intense and more steady and stable. This energy with the twin can be extremely intense and cause a whirlwind in one's life. People often become scared of this and run away. It is also common for twin flames to break up at least once for a period of time for self-growth before re-emerging together. Hugging a twin can be much like a soul mate in that it is like coming home for oxygen and nourishment.
This nourishing feeling can attract twins like magnets and keep them by each other's side for long periods of time. It may feel so comforting being held by a twin that the two become very attached. It is common for twins to spend as much time together as possible as they long for and crave each other. It is believed by some that we are constantly looking for and desiring our twin flame subconsciously. Sometimes when twins meet their souls are not right which will cause them to seriously dislike each other until they grow more. It is believed that we do meet our twins occasionally throughout other lives, and that in one's last life on earth the twins will join together so as to complete their destined service work and ascend together. Asking for one's soul mate could easily result in meeting one's twin flame. This will often be a person who pushes all of your buttons and delivers karma into your life from your past. The less baggage twins have before coming together, the less negative karma will be bestowed on the relationship.
Relationships between twins can often be described as a rollercoaster ride. This is due to the karmic connection and reflection of one's own soul. The more self-actualized a person is, the less drama there will be between his/herself and their twin. Also, the faster the twins learn and grow as individuals, the faster their rollercoaster relationship will smooth out and become more stable. It is important to note that dealing with a twin flame is unlike any other relationship. The connection is through the soul rather than physical, so the relationship must be handled from a spiritual, soul-centered viewpoint, rather than any physical, jealous or controlling habits and patterns of this realm.
Twin flames often resemble each other in appearance. It is common for them to appear related and complement each other physically and characteristically, although in no way does this suggest they are of the same nationality. In fact, twin flames often find themselves traveling large distances across the world before meeting. As they are two parts (two whole souls who were once one) of the same soul they will often have different interests, qualities and experiences. They may often find themselves being complemented on what a great couple they are or asked if they are related. Twin flames also share the same natural rhythm and vibrations. Every soul has a natural energy and vibration to it that can be felt in everyone when they are touched, held or are in close proximity to. The twin flames will have the same natural vibrations.
Along with having the same vibrations, twin flames share a connection that is often telepathic. At least one of the twins is usually very connected to spirit and it is often common for twins to share similar thoughts and feelings at the same time; feeling each others emotions and energy when they are separated. Twins often can sense what the other is doing and feeling when apart, and even communicate telepathically. It is said that this connection forms before the twins actually meet each other. It is also possible for twins to meet in their dreams through lucid type experiences. Everything about the twin flame connection will feel profound, spiritual, even magical.
Another powerful phenomena existent within twin flames is the number 11 11. This is the highest spiritual number (11) and the significance of 11 11 is profound and surrounds the twins. Dates, ages, and anything pertaining to the couple and numbers will often become 11 11. For example, I met my twin flame on 8/6/08. This adds up to be 22 which is 11 11 when split in half. Our anniversary is 8/8/08 which is also lucky in the Chinese zodiac as well as the symbol for triple infinity. There will be multiple signs as this, or more personal when you meet your twin flame.
Twin flames love to be together and connected, and lovemaking is the ultimate expression of this. For the twins, the focus of sexual contact is not always about the pure physical satisfaction of it, but the closeness and bond as well. The bond between twin flames can be so intense during lovemaking that the connection alone is sufficient satisfaction rather than a pure orgasm. Twins have been known to enjoy just being connected, falling asleep attached and loving this above the actual act of sex. The sex can be very rewarding, and the passion between twins can sometimes be so powerful that it can be frightening to some, especially if they aren't ready for their twin.
Controversy surrounding the twins masculine/feminine incarnation has arisen as some say twins must be of the opposite sex, while others believe that the souls can elect to change in between incarnations. Some even believe the twins may be versatile in each incarnation depending on the sexes they happen to incarnate as, and may transform from heterosexual to homosexual depending on the sex of their twin. Regardless of the physical sex, the twins will embody both the masculine and the feminine. It is also interesting to note similarities in astrological signs among twins. Mercury is the sign ruler of Virgo and Gemini. While traditional compatibility suggests these two are not a desirable match, several Gemini’s find themselves with Virgos and vice versa upon asking the universe to send them a true, ultimate soul mate.
Athough the initial twin flame connection can be a rollercoaster, and the couple may break up if not ready, they eventually find themselves back together. It is in their destiny to ascend together, and the only thing that can keep twin flames apart are their own decisions and life choices. Twin flames will feel very drawn together and this is something that may never go away for them as is typical in average relationships. Although twins may separate, and go their separate ways, they will eventually reemerge, perhaps in another life once they are evolved and educated enough in terms of the soul and all it has learned through life. This intense connection and power of the flames gives new meaning to the Bible verse Matthew 19:6 which is traditionally quoted in wedding ceremonies and states: "That which God has joined together let no man put asunder."
The twin flame connection may be looked at as a blessing or a curse depending on the condition of one's soul. It is also possible for one to believe they are with their twin when it is really a karmic connection meant to bring about learning into one's life and nothing more. Soul mates may also be confused as twin flames as there are some similarities. The important thing to remember is that even though you may believe you are with your twin, there is always room for self growth, reflection, nourishment and cultivation. Also, there is only so much you can do on your end to grow as a soul. Twins may not be ready for each other at the same time which could cause some strain and pain. It's not the end of the world if you cannot or are not with your twin. Everything happens for a reason and there is learning and blessings in each walk and circumstance in life. Keeping one's eye on the big picture of life, and personal growth is the ultimate key. It is possible to ask God to manifest your twin flame through your current lover, or to guide you to your twin. You must, however, be careful about what you ask for. If you meet your twin before you are ready, you may be in for the scariest roller coaster ride of your life. This could be a good or bad thing depending on your outlook on life.