We all are UNIQUE

There is nobody else like you in the world and this is worth celebrating rather than searching for faults.

You are unique. There is no one else like you in the entire universe. In honor of your unique self, it is good to acknowledge and embrace the special qualities that make you the person that you are. One way to do this is to not compare yourself with other people.

It is human nature to want to see how we measure up in comparison to others – especially if we think that they are better than us or have more of something that we want. Yet the truth is that it is not a good use of time to compare ourselves with others because there is no one like us and this makes us incomparable. It is sometimes almost easier to look outside of ourselves and feel like we are deficient in comparison to other people rather than taking responsibility for our own progress in relation to the fulfillment of our life purpose. It actually takes more courage to be self-referential and look at ourselves to see whether we are measuring up to our standards or meeting our full potential. Each of us has very special gifts, and we are here for very specific reasons. We each have a life purpose to fulfill and with this come the lessons that we must learn and the circumstances that we must go through in order to evolve as spiritual beings. To compare our lives to other pe! ople’s lives when we have no idea of what they are here to learn or fulfill doesn’t benefit anyone – especially you.

Instead, if we can accept ourselves, appreciate the special talents and qualities that we alone possess, and realize that each of us is going through certain kinds of experiences for a reason, we are less likely focus so much on what other people have or are doing. Realizing and valuing our uniqueness enables us to bring out the best in ourselves so we can get on with living rather than preoccupying ourselves with meaningless comparisons. Try to not compare yourself to others, and you will see how much you have and how special you are.

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WHY We expect from others?

Have you ever thought why we expect from others?

Yes as a human being we all expect from others. This phenomenon starts from our childhood days. When we are a baby, we depend uopn mother to feed milk. Then we grow up depending upon father, mother and elders about our small small things. In this process, we never realize that we are learning to depend upon others and this leads us to expect from others. We all are dependents. We depend on our school image to get an admission to a degree college or university. We depend upon our university degree to get a job. We need our job experience to get another job. We become dependent upon our past deeds. We depend upon our seniors to take decisions. We depend upon our juniors for product sale. We become dependent beings and in ultimately we start expecting things from others.

Expectations makes outer world more important. The external environment becomes the prime focus. And here we unconsciously make mistake. Our happiness is from outer world. Atleast we think like this. And we become prisoner of external world. For example, we think that we need a car to travel, we need a furnished home, we need a loving girlfriend or boyfriend, we need a high paying job, we need a world tour, etc etc. We always need. We always need external things for our happiness. But these things gives us momentary happiness. This happiness will give us joy only for a limited time and that too to our ego self.

We always do things what others want from us. We ignore what we want. We ignore our inter world. we ignore our internal desire. We ignore our soul true purpose. We ignore our inner joy. We ignore our true happiness.

Inner joy is the sole requirement of our true self. Unless we will find our inner desire we will be unable to satisfy our true self. Inner joy is the true self. And we align ourselves to our inner joy, we align ourselves to the universal energy called God. God is nothing but our inner alignment to our true self. When we know where our true joy belongs, we become close to GOD. We remain happy always because we know what is our inner need, where we find true happiness, where our true self belongs.

We have to understand that we have external world and internal world. Those who prefer internal world remains happy forever and those who prefer external world always remain unhappy.

So find your true urge and find your true joy.

Expectations give us nothing but takes up everything. Instead of asking start giving. Give more money to get more money. Give more love to get more love. Give more to your work and get more profitability.

We are souls and we are here to find our true purpose. When we find this purpose, we become happy forever.

Magic of Colors in our life

The wondrous displays of color that define the world around us are manifestations of light and, as such, each possesses a unique frequency. The attraction we feel to certain colors is not a matter of pure chance—we experience the beneficial affects of color even while blindfolded. We are naturally drawn to those colors that lift our mood, expand consciousness, and restore health. Color therapy, also known as chromo therapy, allows us to harness the power of individual color frequencies to heal the body, positively influence our emotions, and achieve a renewed sense of inner harmony through sympathetic resonance. Colors do not directly affect the composition of our physical, mental, or aura, but they noninvasively alter the vibrational characteristics of diverse elements of the self so that each resonates at its proper healthy frequency.

It is easy to overlook the colors that saturate our personal and professional environments. Yet these, whether in the form of the paint on our walls or the clothing we wear, can influence our thoughts, behaviors, and feelings to an extraordinary degree. The colors we like best are often those that we need most in our lives, and there are many ways we can utilize them. Basking under a colored lightbulb or gazing at an area of color can stimulate or calm us depending on the color we choose. For example, red stimulates the brain, circulatory systems, and first chakra, giving us an energy boost, while blue acts on the throat chakra, soothing the body and mind. And when we do not feel drawn to any one color, we can still benefit from the healing effects of white light, which is an amalgamation of all the colors of the visible spectrum. It is a cleansing color, one that can purify us on many levels.

Human beings evolved to delight in vivid sunsets and rainbows, to enjoy the sensations awakened by particularly eye-catching color, and to decorate our spaces and ourselves with bright colors. In essence, we evolved to love the light because of its harmonizing influence on every aspect of the self. When we pay attention to the potential affects of individual colors, we can modify our spaces, wardrobes, and habits to ensure that we introduce the colors that speak to us most deeply in our everyday lives.

10 Tips to Let Go of the Past & Embrace the Future

"Two monks were on a pilgrimage. One day, they came to a deep river. At the edge of the river, a young woman sat weeping because she was afraid to cross the river without help. She begged the two monks to help her. The younger monk turned his back. The members of their order were forbidden to touch a woman.

But the older monk picked up the woman without a word and carried her across the river. He put her down on the far side and continued his journey. The younger monk came after him, scolding him and berating him for breaking his vows. He went on this way for a long time.

Finally, at the end of the day the older monk turned to the younger one. "I only carried her across the river. You have been carrying her all day."

Letting go can be difficult. Letting go of people, ideas, expectations, desires; letting go of bad habits, false beliefs and unhealthy relationships... the list goes on. Every day, every moment presents an opportunity to create ourselves anew, to shrug off the baggage of the past, open ourselves up to the possibility of the moment and take action to create an incredible future. 

Although we can understand this intellectually, knowing it and living it are two very different things. 

Here is my Top Ten Action list for letting go to get going:

1. Meditate. Find stillness, breathe. Meditation is action. Our mind is much harder to still than our body. Our lives are busy and fast paced, filled with external noise and distractions. Clarity comes from quiet.  Meditation, even in small amounts, will make room for the next 9 steps.

2. Understand. Take time to reflect on your own history as a third party looking in without judgment: simply observe. Understand that you are not your past. Understand that the situations and patterns and people in your life created your experiences, they didn’t create you. Knowing and understanding your past and some of your patterns will help you to recognize why you hold on and repeat self-destructive behaviours. Understanding creates awareness; awareness helps you break the cycle.

3. Accept. Accept your history and the people that have been a part of your history; accept your circumstances and remember that none of these define you. Acceptance is the first step to letting go and setting yourself free. Learn from the monk in the story: carrying bitterness, anger or animosity burdens no one but you.

4. Empty your cup. Consciously and actively work at letting go of your story; your judgments and ideals, the material things, all your stuff. They have no real value. They do not make you stronger, healthier or more powerful, and belief in them is a delusion. Pour out your expectations of how, who, where and what you should be as they, too, are part of a story that holds you back from simply being.  Once you let go of this story and empty your cup, your life purpose will open up and flow.

5. Align. Take a moment (or several: you’re worth the time) to write down the following: 

i. Your core beliefs/values

ii. Your Life Goals

iii. The actions that you are taking to pursue those goals.

Now take an honest look at your core beliefs/values and determine whether or not they align with your goals and actions. If not, ask yourself: is it time to create new core beliefs, set new goals OR take new action? What actions must you take to align your actions with your beliefs in order to attain your goals. Write down 3 actions that you will take this week to get yourself moving. 

6. Flex. It may seem paradoxical to detach from outcomes, yet set goals and work toward them. But if you are flexible -- that is, willing to let go of the end result -- aligning your goals and true purpose with the greater good is righteous action. Be flexible; allow the path to unfold as it will, opening up to opportunities. Flex and flow with the current of life. 

7. Contribute. When you find yourself lamenting about your past or angry about your present or brooding about your future, find a way to making someone’s day better. Offering a smile to someone as you pass, opening a door, putting a bit of extra change in the parking meter, dropping off some food for the food bank: these simple actions can have lasting impact and help you to put your situation into perspective. Contributing to the well-being of others is the best way to align with your true self.

8. Believe in yourself. Believe in your purpose. Believe that the universe is unfolding as it should and that you have a divine roll to play. Believe that holding on does nothing in fact but hold you back from that purpose.

9. Love the process.  Have fun. Be playful, cheerful and positive. Give power to positivity. Love yourself, love others and love this life. It is a gift to unwrap each and every day, to gaze upon with new and excited eyes.

10. Be grateful.  Be true. Once you have taken all of these actions, just be. 

Here’s to letting go of the past and embracing the future.

Walk Without Feet, Fly Without Wings and Think Without Mind

YOU CAN GO ON STANDING ON YOUR HEAD FOR MANY more lifetimes... that has nothing to

do with it. To walk without feet you need not stand on your head. That has no relevance. It has no

relationship.

To walk without feet and to fly without wings, you need not do any unnecessary things like standing

on your head. Standing on your head you will not even be able to walk with your feet – what to say

about walking without feet? Standing on your head you will not be able to walk at all. Standing on

your head you will be dead, you will not be alive.

When I say walk without feet, what am I saying? I am saying, first: learn how to walk with feet, and

then be very very watchful inside, be alert. Create a luminous consciousness. See who is walking

when you are walking. Are you really walking? You have come from England to India, or from Japan

to India – has anything really moved inside you? You have not walked. The body has been carried

from Japan to India, but your consciousness is the same.

You were a child; now you are a young man or an old man, you have walked a long way – but have

you really changed? Deep at the very core of your being you have not walked at all; there has been

no journey. You are exactly the same at the very core of your being.

Walking, if you watch, you will know there is no walking. Talking, if you watch, you will see there is

no talking. Thinking, if you watch, you will see there is no thinking. The deepest core of your being

remains untouched, untouchable. It is a lotus in the water – remains in the water but untouched.

Knowing that witness is what I mean...

THINK WITHOUT MIND

FLY WITHOUT WINGS

WALK WITHOUT FEET

I am not teaching you some circus tricks here – that you can fly, so stand on your head.

A circus manager was interviewing people for jobs in his circus. By the end of the day he had hired

very few and turned down many, while getting very bored with all their tricks. As he was ready to

leave his office, a man walked in and said, ”I would like to get a job in your circus.”

Without giving him a glance, the manager asked, ”And what can you do?”

”I can fly like a bird,” said the man.

”Sorry, we have no need for that, and all jobs are taken,” said the manager.

”Oh well,” said the man, disappointed – and flew out of the window.

But, Parinirvana, I am not teaching those tricks here. You have to drop all tricks – these are all tricks!

People become very much interested, because ego feels very much fulfilled if you can do something

which nobody else can do: if you can walk without feet, if you can fly without wings, you will feel

greatly happy – although you have not achieved anything! Stupid birds are flying, so what have you

achieved? There is no achievement in it.

It happened: a man came to Ramakrishna, and he was very haughty and very arrogant, and he

said, ”Do you know? – I can walk on the river.” They were sitting on the bank of the Ganges in

Dakshineshwar. Ramakrishna laughed. He was a very very innocent man. He said, ”You can walk

on the river?”

And the man said, ”Yes.”

And Ramakrishna said, ”How many years did it take you to learn the trick?”

He said, ”Eighteen years.”

Ramakrishna laughed; said, ”You fool – eighteen years?! When I want to go to the other side, just

two paise... something worth two paise – eighteen years?! I have never come across such a fool,”

he said. ”You have wasted your life! I just go by the ferryboat. There is no need...!”

But these things attract; the mind becomes very much interested if something miraculous can

happen to you. And miracles are happening continuously, but you don’t see them – that you are

breathing, that you are alive, that you are loving, that you are seeing the sunrays, the sky, that the

world is such a benediction. Miracles are happening every moment! But you would like to fly like a

stupid bird, and then you will feel very good that you have become a great yogi or something.

Remember: be ordinary; don’t try to be special in any way, otherwise you will be moving in a wrong

direction. To be special means to be egoistic, and ego is the only Problem. There is no other

problem. Forget about being special. Just be ordinary. And there is great joy in being ordinary. Just

be human.

And by being ordinary you will come to know – you will know the art of walking without feet and flying

without wings. That art simply means that ”I am not the doer. I have relaxed. Now God walks in me,

God talks in me, God loves through me, but I am a hollow bamboo. I have no special goal in life –

His goal is my goal. And if He has no goals, I am perfectly happy with no goal. I am flowing with the

river. Wherever it leads, that is my home – if it leads anywhere. If it doesn’t lead anywhere, then that

is my home.”

This is relaxation. And to relax in reality is to attain, is to be enlightened. Enlightenment is an utter

let-go.

What Is a Twin Flame? Twin Flame Q & A by a Twin Flame Love Coach

Twin Flame. So, you’ve heard the term, and vaguely you know

what it means…

And somewhere inside you, you know you want to meet yours, and with deep longing and passion! You feel your soul’s destiny: to be with the love of all loves of your life… Your Twin Flame.

But what exactly is a Twin Flame?

The term ”Twin Flame” (sometimes capitalized) was coined only several decades ago in the new age community, and brought forward into the mainstream by spiritual public figures such as Magenta Pixie who currently has nearly 6 million hits on her YouTube channel that often addresses the Twin Flame topic “Twin flame” has certainly become a current buzz word, which fits, since 2012 is the beginning of the Twin Flame era.  Well, actually, 2012 is a turning point year on many levels–it’s a period of Ascension, which is just another new-agey term referring to the big enlightening shifts going on upon our planet…all good news!  During these shifts, we see the Divine Feminine coming to power. The Divine Feminine and Divine Masculine are becoming harmonized, which is why many souls feel restless. Those of us who have been doing our spiritual homework may feel ready to be with our one true beloved Twin Flame. Exciting times…! But what is the correct definition of a Twin Flame in the first place? In this article, I breifly help you navigate the definition of the term Twin Flame as well as soulmates and the difference between the two.

Though “Twin Flame” has been defined differently by different people, we new-agey love experts generally agree that Twin Flames can be defined as two people who come together vibrating at identical electromagnetic frequencies as polarized counterparts of the same soul.  That was a mouthful!

In a nutshell, your Twin Flame is your one true soulmate who really is you–your same soul in a separate body. And because you are a human sexual being, your one true Twin Flame tends to be the sexiest and most likely suitable mate for you on the whole entire planet…pretty sexy and spiritual if you ask me!

What’s the difference between a soulmate and a Twin Flame?

Well, a soulmate can be just about anyone: a soulmate for business purposes, past-life karmic purposes, familial relations, romantic, teachers, etc –souls who arrive when there are lessons for each of you to be learned.  Soulmates are here for your soul’s growth, and through the Law of Attraction, you meet various soulmates in divine timing for the specific lessons to be learned.  If you don’t learn the intended lesson, you repeat the course, so-to-speak, with the next soulmate.  This is why it can seems like the soundtrack is on repeat when it comes to love relationships sometimes! we can be slow learners, it can take a few tries or even many lifetimes.  In sum, your Twin Flame is a type of soulmate, the most royal and sacred category of soulmates. There is only one Twin Flame for you, whereas there are many types of soulmates.  In fact, you probably have interacted with several soulmates today already!

The Twin Flame is a mirror to your soul, one that carries the Beloved Frequencies.

Your Twin’s vibration is both the same and the polar opposite of yours, like the solid and the void existing at once to create the Zero Point.  I liken it to the heat and cold coming together to create the perfect climate for growth, like the fiery sun warming the cool earth to sustain life.

When you meet your Twin Flame, you are essentially staring at your own soul, which is why the Twin Flame reunion usually happens with a feeling of deep soul recognition.  Even though you are seeing this person for the first time, it feels as if you are remembering a part of yourself, like you have known them all along. In fact, this is true, on the soul level.

Why are we separated from our Twin Flame in the first place?

According to Plato’s Symposium in Greek mythology, humans were originally 2 of hearts (and 2 heads, 4 legs, etc) until Zeus began to fear the power of the combined human form, and so cut humans in half, separating them into males and females, resulting in a perpetual ache of separation and a longing to regain the completeness by finding one’s soulmate. 2500 years ago, Plato put it:

” … and when one of them meets the other half, the actual half of himself, the pair are lost in an amazement of love and friendship and intimacy and one will not be out of the other’s sight even for a moment…”

We are separated from our Twin Flame so that we can awaken to and remember who we are.  For soul growth. To know ourselves. That’s what it takes: your soul happy, balanced, and whole, so that your electromagnetic field can sing its frequency, the tune that attracts your twin.  Trust me, I know it’s not easy to get there, but when you do, the whole universe is at your fingertips!

Your Twin Flame doesn’t complete you; your Twin Flame arrives when your soul realizes her wholeness.

The arrival/attraction of your Twin is only a reaction to this blissful state of Oneness, love, and the mastery of allowing in an entire universe of love from the inside out.  Welcome home…

Man and woman age gap a necessity or myth

Our society always defines age. Parameters for man woman relationship. Do you think that it is right to spread this message in our society? I don't think so because I believe that instead of concentrating on age gaps, one should concentrate on love between the two. Love should be the real parameters for any relationship. Because if love is not there than permutations and combinations of age gaps for a relationship is futile.

There is a myth in our younger generation especially girls that man should be of her age. But our forefathers always insisted for a gap of not less than 4 years and not more than 8 years. But in the recent times on evolution of love marriages such practices have been gone in history. 

So what was the reason for such age gaps. The main reasons are that a man becomes matured at later ages mostly after 28 years meanwhile girls attain maturity at lesser age. A girl of 20 years has a maturity of 24 years but a man of 28 has a maturity of 24 years only. For any relationship there should a mutual understanding and this comes from how one undertakes its responsibilities. A girl being closure to family understands the importance of family whereas a boy usually remains in friends understands tge need of family when he starts living alone. So for a marriage to be successful, our ancestors cling to this theory of age difference.

The younger generation wants everything quickly and they want man and woman of their ages. They think in short term. They think only about now.

There is one very important basis of successful marriage and that is romantic satisfactory physical love. A man in younger age is very anxious and usually fails in letting her woman gets orgasm. Whereas a man of ages understands woman much better and gives love to his woman both romantically and also physically for longer duration's  This is why in western countries woman prefer an older man. There are many other reasons like a man of 30's or 40's have usually seen life, would have a good house and good salary, so basic necessities of life would not be the issue and he would have time to share with his wife. But when a woman marries a man of younger age. This man is usually busy in making money, deducting salary for home loan installments and car loan repayments. So this man's focus is money and stability in life. Love is still not his priority. For a woman love is first priority. She lives for love of husband and family. She understands that living life in peace and harmony is far important than accumulating money. This lesson is learnt by man in much latter stage. So the relationship seldom goes smooth. 

Life becomes a dream when a man has good income and time to spend with his wife and both are equally happy in supporting each other and live life in complete freedom.

There is one more important reason why there should be a age gap. A man is sexually active till 60 years or more but a woman remain sexually active only upto 45 years or maximum upto 50 years. Since the man wants sex upto 60 years and when he will not get sexual satisfaction at home, he will look outward. And this leaves frustration to woman. 

So its better to maintain a good age difference to enjoy the bliss of perfect marriage.

Good Luck....whatever is the case give love without any condition to enjoy life.