ARYAN A VISIONARY

In my life I’ve been involved in quite a few intense relationships and I would say I’ve had a few past-life relationships which were very intense and made me face up to a lot of deep-rooted issues. A lot of the time, people confuse soulmates, past-life connections and addiction.
If that sounds a bit dramatic, read on.

There are people that we have relationships with where tell ourselves that we’re in love and that we’ve met our soul mate because we’re thinking about that person all the time or tuning into their feelings when actually what we’re dealing with is a kind of addiction. You know that you’re dealing with addiction rather than real love when you feel that you simply couldn’t live without that other person and when the thought of being without them is too terrifying to even think about. That kind of love that actually knocks you off of your path, but it can also be the kind of love that teaches you something.
In contrast, past life relationships can be just as intense, but there is a particular kind of familiar feeling about them. I’ve bumped into two people in this life that I know I’ve had previous past-life relationships with. When you meet someone that you had a past-life relationship with, you it often feels as if that person is your soulmate because you know them with a profound feeling of recognition, you understand each other, you have more of a bond when you’re separate from each other and you can kind of feel where they are.

Past life relationships can be confusing at best and hell at their worst. They are confusing because they can they often involve ecstasy and agony. There can be so much intensity between you. You might even share all sorts of spiritual experiences such as telepathy or seeing colours when you make love. But such relationships are usually plagued with problems. It’s like you’re repeating the same relationship you might have had in ten lives with that person. It’s obviously very potent and intense magic. Even if you don’t see them for ten years you can feel this complete and utter bond, because in a way it’s a timeless bond.

Sometime, those relationships are not meant for this life, however, and it may be that your learning in this life is to let go of that so that you can find the right energy for you. It’s hard, because people find it very difficult to let go of that intoxicating experience, even though, in most cases, those kind of relationships will never work – it’s always ecstasy and agony and drama.

When you’re in that experience it’s very difficult for you to think that it’s not for you, because you’re determined to fit that square peg in that round hole, and make it work but it all comes back to your relationship with you. If you are your best friend and you love you, you’re not going to let yourself go through that trauma all of the time. And ultimately it’s about actually believing that you are worthy of a relationship that is worthy of you – a relationship that nurtures you, a relationship that is equal. A relationship that doesn’t destroy your heart, and take away with your self-esteem.

In contrast, and despite anything else that you might have heard anywhere else, soul mate relationships just tend to work. When you meet soulmate, you get on, you may have a few struggles, but fundamentally you click. It’s a functioning relationship, and you have each others’ best interests at heart.

Not all soul mates are destined to be lovers, either. If you have a friendship or you have a connection that’s absolutely stunningly beautiful, and pure and delightful, and you merge together, it could also be a soul mate connection.

So if you’re confused about whether the person you’re involved with or have your heart set on is a soul mate, a past life connection with some karma to work through or an outright addiction, just ask yourself: Does this relationship bring me peace? Does it work? Are we better people for being in it? Does it allow me to be my best me? If the answer is yes, it could be a soul mate relationship. If your answers are no, then it’s likely to be a past life connection and only you can make the decision to set yourself free.

Karmic Path Revealed through Numbers

Many eastern teachings speak of Karma and the Karmic path. As a Numerologist I personally believe that the difficult times in life can often be linked to Karmic issues. When we understand this it can really help to make sense of things and help us to find our way through. To find our personal link to Karma we need to look at the day of birth. This can give valuable insight as to what our life lesson may be.

If the day of birth number is double digits i.e. 26 we would reduce it by adding 2+6=8.

Therefore the Karmic connection number would be 8.

The only exception to this rule is the master numbers which are 11, 22 and 33.

When you have found your number of Karmic connection look at the numbers below to find out what it means for you.

ONE: This number indicates a deep need to express your individuality and to be Independent. It may be that you were prevented from doing this in a previous lifetime. You need to accept the challenges that life brings.

TWO: This number indicates a deep sensitivity on the emotional levels and a need to develop emotional maturity. There is a deep desire for justice with this number and a need to learn to understand the emotional needs of others.

THREE: This number brings a need for creative expression. You have a lot of love to give and the ability to uplift people. It may be that in a former life you were not allowed to be outwardly expressive. There is a need to work on self esteem.

FOUR: The energy of this number brings a need for order and stability and security. The great lesson often associated with this number is Self control and responsibility.

FIVE: The free spirit with the gift of communication. Five needs to try new things and be constantly changing and growing. There is a low boredom threshold here. The lesson of this number is often to do with inner control.

SIX: The number of Balance and Harmony and of family. Very caring and loving these are the archetypal parents. The karmic lesson here is usually about learning to maintain a sense of inner balance and of “letting go”.

SEVEN: Analytical and yet often considerate sevens need to have their own space and privacy. There is a need to learn to discriminate as the seven can often be taken in by those who are less honest.

EIGHT: The number of organization and of the material world. Material success is often important to the eight. The lesson is to not lose sight of why you are striving to achieve. You may find it difficult to “let go” of old emotional hurts.

NINE: The humanitarian with a great deal of compassion and love to give. Honest and kind your desire is to help make the world a better place. The Karmic lesson of this number is often about learning to control the emotions and to learn from your mistakes.

ELEVEN: Unconventional and highly intuitive these are the people who bridge the old with the new.

The lesson here tends to deal with patience and with understanding that perfection cannot actually be attained. You must learn to appreciate what you have.

TWENTY TWO: Powerful energy with this number. There is a fine line between realistic achievement and illusions. You need to learn to use your abilities wisely to empower people. Work on self esteem.

THIRTY THREE: Very knowledgeable with the ability to enlighten and share wisdom. The lesson here is to learn to use your skills to help others without giving in to the ego.

The three higher energy or Master numbers can be difficult numbers as the life lessons can sometimes be more difficult to learn. You may find yourself repeating the same mistakes over and over until you get it right. It is important to remember that these lessons make us stronger as people and it is often the more difficult times that bring the greatest rewards.

Breaking Free of Karmic Relationship

Breaking free of karmic relationships

When you meet someone you have a karmic connection with, a spark of recognition ignites in your soul. You’ll feel a haunting familiarity, a sense of having come home, a longing for something not quite remembered.
You might recognise their face, name or the sound of their voice, or you may intuitively know you have met before. If this person is a potential lover, these feelings are magnified, giving the whole relationship a compulsive, alluring intensity. You’ll feel a connection that goes way beyond what you actually say and do together. Something profound appears to be bubbling away under the surface.

Familiar old patterns

Unfortunately, just because something is familiar, doesn’t necessarily mean it’s good for you. You might feel comfortable in situations that are actually very limiting, just because that’s what you’re used to. If you have low self-esteem you may feel more ‘at home’ with people who perpetuate that myth around you because that’s how you’re used to seeing yourself. Unconsciously this might feel much safer to you than the terrifying unknown beyond your own self-imposed walls.

If you have karma to resolve in a close relationship you may be sucked into a whirlpool of repetitive past patterns and behaviour that appears to have very little to do with your conscious wishes and actions. But because you know the pattern, you’re compelled to repeat it.
Making new patterns takes much more effort – and brings unsettling change. It could mean you have to look at yourself in a new light, which can feel daunting. What if you are not who you thought you are? Friends and family may feel threatened by you changing, and oppose it because it brings to light things they need to break free from in their own lives.

Love versus karma

Discovering whether you’re caught in a karmic emotional rollercoaster is actually quite easy to do. Real love should be a peaceful, beautiful experience filled with mutual respect, joy and space to grow. If you’re hynotised by someone who controls, mistreats or lies to you, but whom you still refuse to believe would deliberately hurt you – you’re in a karmic relationship. You might have incredible sex, and feel like they know you better than you know yourself. But you also have terrible cathartic fights and say unforgivable things to each other. You feel like you experience life more intensely through them, for better or worse.
The karmic recognition falsely tricks you into feeling that your destiny is tied up with this person. It feels fated. And, yes, it is, as you have possibly encountered each other hundreds of times before in various guises. And the reason he or she keeps coming back is that you could not find a way to resolve your past issues. So why should this time be any different? Because this time you have the potential to understand that your karmic relationship is teaching you a lesson that could transform your life for the better!

Acceptance and realisation

One of the first things to accept if you’re in a karmic relationship is that you are actually in one. You’re not a fool to have mistaken the intense feelings you’re experiencing as love, or felt that you are bound together in an inevitable dance with someone who is controlling you like a puppet.
Karma has to be compelling and addictive, otherwise you wouldn’t learn anything from it. Its only purpose is to teach, so you can become more whole.
Your friends and family will have already pointed out that they don’t understand why you put up with your karmically-challenged person’s attitude or behaviour. And perhaps, intellectually, you know they’re right. But in your heart you’re probably still a slave to the beast.
The great news is that as soon as you start to consciously acknowledge the truth of your fated relationship, the mask will slowly slip, and you will see them for who they truly are. You’ll soon come to realise what the people who really do care for you see so plainly – that it’s not really love.

Your own path

This is one lesson you have to learn on your own. Everyone goes through it at some time, and your path is unique, created by your own personal karmic debts.
Although it can be a lonely place to be, the miracles that will happen when you take charge of your own destiny will amaze you.
Tackling your personal fears and negative patterns has the potential to completely re-wire your spiritual life path. It is also important to recognise the other person in the relationship as a powerful force in your life. They are teaching you a valuable lesson, one that could free you from an endless loop of negative behaviour.

Next time around

To break the pattern, one of you needs to evolve. But if that seems impossible at the moment, don’t be too hard on yourself. Though staying in an abusive relationship of any sort will erode your self-esteem, and drain your energy to deal with it at all. Speak out and get help if you can.
Karma can be painful – but as you learn more about your life, through both your wonderful and painful experiences, you will grow wiser and more whole, and the pain will ease.

Just being aware of the karmic nature of the partnership will lessen its power over you. And if things don’t get resolved, you can choose to put it back on the spiritual shelf for now. Of course this means you’ll have to go through it all again… but in another life, perhaps by then you’ll have accumulated enough good karma and positive energy to slay your demons once and for all!

Never again!

If you are feeling brave enough to take charge of your karmic debts in this life, you’re in for a soul-changing experience. Because once you assert yourself, or take charge of the situation in a conscious way, you’ll feel the burden slowly lift. Communicating your needs and wishes, not tolerating unkindness, sticking up for your opinions and beliefs, and most importantly, forgiving yourself, will melt those binding karmic ties into oblivion.
Once you have learned your lesson you will know in your heart that you will never have to deal with that particular piece of karma again. The person who had you spellbound will begin to look like an ordinary human being, and you’ll become master of your own destiny.

Wednesday, September 17, 2014

Karmic Relationship