Sunday, February 14, 2010

Choose Your SOULMATE

There are three main reasons why a man is attracted to a woman and vice-versa:
1. Physical attraction
2. Mental compatibility or Heart perversion or Intimacy
3. Soul attraction

These attractions occur when you meet a person FACE TO FACE. One can also be attracted to a photograph of an individual. Now the question arises why you get attracted to a certain person.
Every person carries an energy level around their bodies which is known as AURA.


But sometimes opposites attract. Such attractions are mainly physical one. An example: when you see a celebrity picture, you are physically attracted to her body, her breasts and her private parts and vice versa for females. The same thing occurs when you meet such a person face to face. If you are a man and you are attracted to a woman then there will an erection in penis and when a woman is physically attracted to a man then her nipples will tighten and she will feel a sensation in clitoris. Any relations resulting from physical attraction lasts for very short period. Once the lust is over, the relation is over. An example: When a man seduces a prostitute or a college girl is seduced by a teacher or a senior in a car or hostel room.

Mental attraction is what we call compatibility. A lot of youngsters want compatibility in relationships. So what does compatibility means? It means nothing but a liking towards one another based on mental calculations or a liking based on friendship resulting to an adjustment of two hearts and minds. When two persons feel that their likings are similar. Like both enjoy similar hobbies or interests, they say they are compatible. The word compatible states that two persons are having the same frequency and their physical and mental chemistry is good. These kind of relationships are based on give and take principle. An example: A couple has an understanding that the female will be on top of male or vice-versa, while achieving the orgasm or physical pleasure. The term of relationship is longer and may result in marriage. Here, both of them are so much concerned about ejection of sperms or ova to reach the ultimate pleasure. But each time they reach the top, they end up at the bottom. Again on another night they try to reach the summit but end up in the valley. There is no eternal satisfaction. A woman after sometimes felt bored as she cannot achieve multiple orgasms because the male is busy satisfying himself ejecting as soon as possible. Hence, both male and female began to search another person believing that the opposite is not a perfect match. That’s why there are so many divorces and marriage break ups. And even those who can’t divorce due to social or monetary obligations became unfaithful by indulging in another relationship.

So what is the solution to this problem? Actually, it’s not a problem. It’s just a chapter which is not added in the course of one’s life.

Soulful relations are the eternal in nature. When a man is attracted soulfully towards a woman or vice-versa then a message from inner sub-conscious will be sent to the conscious brain. One will feel happy and all the pours of your skin will open resulting in trembling of your body. This would be a natural process. Your move will not be a result of responses of your brain or heart but it will be stimuli or automatic reaction. When your body shakes then all pours of skin opens and your body is ready to accept the other body. But people react negatively to that situation as they are scared of themselves. It actually gives you the indication that you are ready for the sex. Making love to the opposite with a shaking body is great experience. When two individuals with soulful attractions meet, there is no hurry for sex. They rather lengthen the whole love making process starting with kissing, touching breast / prostate (nipple orgasm), rubbing clitoris/penis (Clitoris orgasm), swallowing penis/sucking vulva and finally vaginal penetration hitting g-spot (vaginal orgasm). Since woman takes longer time to activate initially but once she gets going, she can achieve multiple orgasms. Similarly, a man can also get multiple orgasms. During multiple orgasms, a stage is reached when two bodies become one. A man will not be a man and a woman will not a woman, rather they become one. There will be timelessness feeling and one’s body will have self control. Generally, such phase comes for a very shorter period say 1-2 seconds. But through practice, the time could be increased to 2-3 hours and when you will reach that stage you will meet god there. It’s when you’re your half soul along with half soul of your partner will mate to unite with the heavenly soul of the universe i.e. GOD.

So now you have the choice.

Choose your partner, choose your SOULMATE….

Friday, January 15, 2010

Qualities of a Winner

विश्‍व में तीन तरह के व्‍यक्ति होते हैं . लीडर , संचारक (communicator) एवं आयोजक (organisor) . अगर आप किसी भी व्‍यक्ति के व्‍यक्तित्‍व को ध्‍यान से देखें तो आपको आसानी से पता चल जाएगा कि वह पुरुष या महिला किस श्रेणी में आते हैं और इसका आरंभ आप अपने आप से कर सकते हैं .लीडर वह होता है जो हमेशा नेतृत्व करते हुए कार्य की पहल करता है . वह दूसरे की बजाए हमेशा पहल करने पर विश्‍वास रखता है . वह कार्य आरंभ कर उदाहरण पेश करता है . इनका व्‍यक्तित्‍व प्रभावशाली होता है . वह बिना किसी पूर्वाग्रह के टीम के प्रत्‍येक सदस्‍य से संवाद कायम करता है . वह अपने टीम के सदस्‍यों को कठिन लक्ष्‍यों की प्राप्ति हेतु प्रेरित करता है . वह हमेशा प्रसन्‍न रहता है . वह समूह का सबसे हंसमुख व्‍यक्ति होता है . किसी भी परिस्थिति में वह शांतचित्‍त ही रहता है . उसमें प्रतिकूल परिस्थितियों में भी अपने आपको उसी अनुसार ढ़ालने की क्षमता होती है . दबाव की परिस्थितियों में वह और बेहतर प्रदर्शन करते हैं . वह हर समस्‍या का समाधान ढ़ूढ़ ही लेते हैं . वह असफलता का दायित्‍व स्‍वयं लेते हैं और सफलता का श्रेय टीम के सदस्‍यों को देते हैं . वह अपने अनुयायियों में टीम-भावना एवं सहयोग बनाए रखते हैं . वह एक प्राकृतिक मनोचिकित्‍सक होते हैं है जो अपने टीम के सदस्‍यों की रुचि एवं अरुचि को समझते हैं .संचारक वह होते हैं जिन्‍हें संवाद करना पसंद होता है . आप उन्‍हें अक्‍सर मोबाइल या टेलीफोन पर बातें करते हुए देख सकते हैं . इनमें अद्भुत संपर्क क्षमता होती है . उन्‍हें पता होता है कि कोई भी काम कहां से करवाया जा सकता है . उनका जनसंपर्क बहुत बढ़िया होता है . वह सभी महत्‍वपूर्ण व्‍यक्तियों को व्‍यक्तिगत रूप से जानते हैं . वह उनसे संपर्क बनाए रखते है . वह सरलता से अपनी बात कहना जानते हैं . वह एक अच्‍छे वक्‍ता हो सकते हैं . उन्‍हें अक्‍सर शहर की सभी पार्टियों या कार्यक्रमों में देखा जा सकता है . वह हमेशा मुख्‍य अतिथि के लिए दरवाजा खोलने को तत्‍पर रहते हैं . वह बोले बिना नहीं रह सकते हैं क्‍योंकि वह संचारक होते हैं .आयोजक वह होते हैं जिन्‍हें काम करवाने का तरीका आता है . वह अपने को दिए गए काम के हर विवरण को बारीकी से जानते हैं तथा उसके पीछे के तर्क को भी समझते हैं . उनके पास अपने सहयोगियों को काम समझाने एवं अपने आप को अभिव्‍यक्‍त करने का अनूठा तरीका होता है . वह जनसाधारण एवं कार्य स्‍थल के अनुसार अपने आप को ढाल लेते हैं . वह विनम्र होते हैं तथा काम करवाना जानते हैं . वह विशिष्‍ट सोच वाले होते हैं तथा उन्‍हें वरिष्‍ठों से आदेश लेना अच्‍छा लगता है . वह किसी भी संस्‍था में उत्‍कृष्‍ट अधीनस्‍थ स्‍टाफ की भूमिका निभाते हैं . वह अनुयायी होते हैं तथा अच्‍छे नेतृत्‍व का लाभ उठाते हैं .तो अब आप तीनो प्रकार के व्‍यक्तित्‍व को जान गए हैं तथा अपना स्‍व-मूल्‍यांकन कर सकते हैं . पूर्ण व्‍यक्तित्‍व के लिए व्‍यक्ति विशेष को इन गुणों को जानना चाहिए तथा अन्‍य व्‍यक्तियों के गुणों को अपनाना चाहिए .अत: विजेता बनें .

Transformational Leadership

रूपांतरात्‍मक नेतृत्‍व (Transformational Leadership)

रूपांतरात्‍मक नेतृत्‍व की व्‍याख्‍या एक वाक्‍य में पर्याप्‍त रूप से नहीं हो सकती या कहें तो पढ़ने वाले को संतुष्‍ट नहीं कर सकती . इसलिए मैनें इसे एक सच्‍ची कहानी के रूप में समझाने का प्रयास किया है .
एक अर्द्ध-शहरी शाखा में राम (काल्‍पनिक नाम) शाखा प्रबंधक हैं तथा श्‍याम (काल्‍पनिक नाम) उसी शाखा में काउंटर क्‍लर्क हैं . राम की 30 वर्ष की आयु में अपने पहले लाइन एसाइनमेंट पर शाखा में नियुक्ति हुई . राम ने शाखा की समस्‍याओं को तुरंत निपटाने के बजाय 2 माह तक वहां की समस्‍याओं का आकलन किया एवं उन्‍हें समझा . दर्जनों समस्‍याओं में से , प्रति व्‍यक्ति कम व्‍यवसाय एवं प्रति व्‍यक्ति न्‍यूनतम आय वहां की प्रमुख समस्‍या थी . राम ने देखा कि सभी स्‍टाफ की तुलना में श्‍याम की उम्र सबसे अधिक थी लेकिन वह सबसे कम काम करने वाला स्‍टाफ था . वह नकारात्‍मक दृष्टिकोण वाला , गैर-अनुशासित एवं ग्राहकों से लड़ने वाला स्‍टाफ था . अपने आकलन के दौरान राम ने पाया कि श्‍याम का काम के प्रति नजरिया कई बाहरी कारणों से प्रभावित था . यह बाहरी कारण थे मसलन , एकाउंटेंट एवं कैश ऑफिसर का उसके प्रति असहयोगात्‍मक रवैया एवं साथियों द्वारा मजाक उड़ाया जाना . एकाउंटेंट साहब पब्लिक के सामने उसका अपमान कर देते तो कैश ऑफिसर महोदय बात-बात में उसकी खिल्‍ली उड़ाते . राम ने पाया कि श्‍याम चाहता है कि स्‍टाफ सदस्‍य (अधिकारी एवं कर्मचारी) उसकी वरिष्‍ठता का सम्‍मान करें . लेकिन श्‍याम के पास अपना आत्‍म-विश्‍वास वापस पाने का कोई तरीका नहीं था .तब राम ने अन्‍य स्‍टाफ सदस्‍यों से श्‍याम का सम्‍मान करने हेतु कुछ प्रयोग किए . जैसे:-
1. ग्राहक संबंध कार्यक्रम में अन्‍य स्‍टाफ सदस्‍यों को पुरस्‍कार देने हेतु श्‍याम को आमंत्रित करना . 2. ग्रामीण बैठकों में उनसे भाषण दिलवाना . 3. श्‍याम का मजाक उड़ाने वाले स्‍टाफ सदस्‍यों को ऐसा करने से रोकना .
4. स्‍टाफ सदस्‍यों को उनका सम्‍मान करने को कहना .

धीरे-धीरे आत्‍म-विश्‍वास की स्‍व-अनुभूति होने की प्रक्रिया आरंभ हुई . अचानक , श्‍याम को महसूस हुआ कि वह स्‍टाफ सदस्‍यों एवं ग्राहकों के बीच जिम्‍मेदार एवं सम्‍माननीय हो गया है . उसके कार्य की गति में तेजी आई एवं कार्य निष्‍पादन भी बढ़ा .

इसी क्रम में राम ने एकाउंटेंट , कैश ऑफिसर एवं फील्‍ड आफिसर के साथ बैठक की एवं निर्णय लिया कि श्‍याम को शाखा के काम में सबसे तेज स्‍टाफ के पास बैठाया जाए . इससे श्‍याम झल्‍लाया क्‍योंकि उस स्‍टाफ की तुलना में उसका निष्‍पादन बहुत कम था , इससे वह हतोत्‍साहित भी हुआ क्‍योंकि वह कोर बैंकिंग में दक्ष नहीं था . लेकिन राम द्वारा समझाने एवं कार्य में मदद करने के आश्‍वासन के बाद उसने उस सीट पर काम आरंभ किया . सबकी मदद व सकारात्‍मक दृष्टिकोण से श्‍याम धीरे-धीरे अपने कामों में दक्ष हो गया और उसके कार्य निष्‍पादन में अभूतपूर्व बदलाव आया . फिर राम ने उसकी सहमति से उसे मार्केटिंग के काम में लगाया और उसने शाखा में कई चालू और बचत खाते खुलवाए . और इस तरह शाखा के अनर्जक स्‍टाफ को महत्‍वपूर्ण स्‍टाफ में परिवर्तित किया . यह सब एक टीम भावना के तहत किया गया प्रयास था जो कि अंतत: सफल रहा . उस वर्ष शाखा ने 4 में से 3 मानदंडों यथा : जमा , अग्रिम एवं शुद्ध लाभ पर पूरा बजट प्राप्‍त किया .

इस तरह अगर हम चाहें तो हम किसी भी चीज का रूपांतरण कर सकते हैं , चाहे वह व्‍यवसाय हो , मानव व्‍यवहार या दृष्टिकोण एवं वह लीडर जो रूपांतरण में विश्‍वास करते हैं , वह अपने लक्ष्‍य को प्राप्‍त कर ही लेते हैं , एवं इसे ही ''रूपांतरात्‍मक नेतृत्‍व" कहते हैं .

Wednesday, January 6, 2010

Happy Birthday Michael Jackson

The day was 29th September and the world was mourning the death of Michael Jackson on his birthday.As usual I was travelling from Bareilly to Lucknow by train. Unfortunately, my usual train Mughal Sarai Express was 1 hour 30 minute late and so I had to catch another train which was running late by more than 4 hours. It was Amarnath Express from Jammu. I boarded the train at 6.30 PM from Bareilly. The journey was as usual, there was no fun. A total of 6 passengers were occupying a seat meant for 3-4 people. Thankfully, the railways have converted the pre-independence legacy of wooden seats into the luxurious rubber cushion seats in general bogies.Every year the Railway Minister announces the increase in number of trains but he or she never announced about the increase in general compartments in trains. About 40% of the total passengers occupy 4- general compartment and rest 30% get the luxury of sleeper, AC & 1st class. One can easily found around 20-25 people in each compartment which is meant only for 8 peoples. That makes a total of 200+ peoples in each bogie. If we divide the society into segments, like superclass, 1st class, 2nd class, 3rd class and 4th class then we found that super class usually do not travel in trains, they prefer air or road. The 1st class occupies the 1st class compartment because they have enough money to spend to get the luxury. However, this class has to check on internet whether their class is available in a particular train or not. Now comes the 2nd class. This class is generally those who are on paid travel by their company or government employees or rich businessmen. Like competition among students for Medical or IIT seats, there is a huge competition which starts almost 60 days before the travel date. Thankfully, the computer literate society (which is less than 5% of population) avails the luxury of booking their tickets online. And they think when they can use their mobile to book their tickets or simply buy a platform ticket. Thanks to the visionary late Shri Rajiv Gandhi for bringing the CPU to our society or today Wipro, Infosys would not exist. Next comes the 3rd class society, which is middle and lower middle class usually government servants at low wages. They are as we say are daily commuters, who may travel upto 200 kms to make their daily living. This class is not denied the 'Janm sidh adhikar' to travel in sleeper (birth right) class. Next comes the fourth class, this class of people are labourers, masons, unskilled population who are the poorest section of the society. The increase in their numbers in trains has made havoc in northern India because their number is not decreasing. They are like migratory birds that travel from home to working place depending upon the festival which falls. They do not want a seat in sleeper class rather they prefer to sleep below seats in general compartments.Such was the scenario in our 08982 compartment of Amarnath Express dated 29th September 2009. We all have travelled around 200 kms from Bareilly watching each other faces, sharing some jokes and reading newspapers (the most touched/transferable thing in a train). Lucknow was only at a distance of 36 kms, when a voice of crying child disturbed the sleep of under benchers. Some of the people suggested giving milk to the child.A voice came from the next compartment'Bacha abhi abhi hua hai (the child is born just now), the next voice from our compartmenttrain mein bachcha (child birth in train).A section of people laughed. I also smiled on that version of language.The voice from next compartment followed 'Haan ladka hua hai' (Yes a boy child born).Then we all believed that it was true, an India Mai ka lal jai Kishen (Michael Jackson) was born to a Assamese woman. Three other women unknown to the Assamese couple helped the mother during the child birth process. The mother was lying on the floor of the compartment. Everywhere, there was blood. The child was okay but the mother was resting on the ground wanting some medical help. The other women do not want to cut the food pipe connecting the mother and the child because it may lead to infection; moreover, they were also new to birth giving process. The child was lying on floor alongwith his mother crying for help still connected. Seeing the situation I called the father of the child and suggested to seek help of Railway Police Force (RPF) of Railways or Ticket Collector or Guard. He tried but the passenger bogie was not connected from as the next bogie which was of 2nd AC. The usual thing the 2nd class wants to keep distance from 4th Class. After 30 minutes, the train stopped at Lucknow junction. I alongwith a co-passenger rushed to the Guard. His compartment was closed and he was absent. Then, we rushed to the engine driver. He said talk to the RPF we again rushed to search any RPF jawan. Our eyes started scanning the over crowded platform. We found a policeman. We told him that in bogie number 08982, there is a woman lying on floor alongwith her new born baby. Hearing to that he said talk to RPF. I am a daily commuter from Hardoi. There was no one to help, so we decided to report to RPF office on platform no.1. From platform no. 2 we ran to RPF office. We found Inspector C.B. Rai, we told him the entire story. He immediately called the RPF to check the matter on platform 2, bogie no.08982 and assamese couple. God knows why, we thought that he was befooling us. So to exert pressure on him, we moved to Station Master office. We knew that he was watching us. We did not found the Station Master there. However, there was a man with wireless in white dress who seemed to be a genuine railway employee. We again narrated the whole story. He told us 'Jab tak woh dono platform par utarte nahin hain main kuch nahim kar sakta (I can take action only when the mother and child deboard the train).Inspector C.B. Rai came rushing in. He told us that the mother, child and father had deboarded the train and asked Station Master to send someone with stretcher so that the mother and child could be taken to the railway hospital. I was happy to hear his words and hoping that he was not befooling us.Inspector thanked us for being a good citizen of Indian republic.I just told my helper (the other man) that what will he say to the world?i. I share my birthday with Michael Jackson or may addii. I was born of a train floor dated 29/09/09.And then, what the world will say?Congratulations?????