Wednesday, August 21, 2013

Confusion about Soulmates and Twinflames

There is much confusion about soul mates and twin souls. Very often these two terms have been used synonymously. They are not synonymous. One can and do have many soul mates but one has only one twin soul. In order to understand how these terms come about one must begin from the beginning. Aeons ago, many dispatches of souls or sparks of divinity were discharged from the Source or Godhead. These were destined to be human souls. The numbers in each dispatch vary considerably. The least number is a few, but the numbers may go to millions. The usual numbers are in the hundreds or thousands. The numbers are dependent on the maturity of the souls and the main purpose of their journey. The more mature or spiritually advanced they are the lesser number will be in the outburst. The first timers will be in the hundreds of thousands or millions. This process has been going on from time immemorial: there was no beginning and it looks as if there is no end.
Take an average group of a hundred and twenty eight souls in the one discharge from the Source. They begin to cool on the way down to the physical world. There are many, many worlds in just as many universes. This group of souls has decided to target planet earth. They start to descend through the pre-angelic and angelic realms in a very hazy and dreamy fashion. Very little is remembered of this period. Memory of the remaining journey down the celestial, spiritual, mental, astral and etheric realms is just as blurred. The entire journey down to the etheric/physical realm takes thousands of millions of years until they arrive at a physical planet. In the first incarnation, the group went into rocks as minerals. The entire group of souls took form in the same mineral, e.g. jade or calcium. They remain in these rocks until they were about to be upgraded to vegetation and that was when the planet had to disintegrate into smithereens. The life span as a rock took millions of years.
In the next stage the total soul group of one hundred and twenty eight souls would have to change planet. This time round they would go into the vegetation kingdom. Again all of them would remain in the same family of plants as they progressed. If the leader decides to be an orchid, the remaining soul mates would become the same type of orchid. From thence onwards, the whole group would grow spiritually by dying and being reborn into different types of vegetation, e.g. bushes, flowers and trees of various types etc. It is in this kingdom that we first learnt about death. We were destroyed by being trampled upon or eaten by animals or humans. After millions of years of being in the vegetation kingdom, we then moved on to the animal kingdom. Hitherto and including the animal kingdom we remain as group souls although we have already been individualized. At this stage the total group of 128 souls tend to remain as one type of animal. As group souls we do not have self-awareness. We only know the difference between ‘us’ and ‘them’. Again having reincarnated through many categories of animals, we arrive at being Australopithecus afarensis more than 3 million years ago. Then Homo habilis (the handy human) lived in Africa roughly 2.5 million years ago. Homo habilis walked upright and has the same dexterity as modern man. He had a brain half the size of modern man. This is the first precursor of man. The Australopithecus had a brain capacity of 400 cc. Then roughly about more than 1.5 million years ago Homo habilis evolved into Homo erectus, which has an average brain capacity of 850 c.c.
The Neanderthal is the transitional stage between the H. habilis and H. sapiens. The Neanderthal who was the first H.sapiens came about 200,000 years ago and became extinct 35,000 years ago. It has the same brain capacity as modern man, but its skull structure is more primitive than modern man's. The Neanderthal is the first human ancestor to bury his dead. This is about 60,000 years ago. However, around 35,000 years ago, the Cro-magnons completely replaced the Neanderthals and totally populated the earth. The Cro-magnons has a brain capacity of about 1,400 c.c. At this human stage, the Cro-magnons begin to ‘know that we know’. From this point onwards, the Cro-magnons began the human journey in earnest. We began to feel instinctively when we met our soul mates: there was an instant attraction to all the other 127 soul mates, but we still did not know that each of us has a twin. In the vegetable and animal stages we tended to move in the same group, and we were always not very far from each other including our twins. However, as humans we may be dispersed thousands of miles away from our soul mates. And as soon as we meet any one in our soul group we instantly feel an attraction to the other. In the primitive stages of our human evolution we certainly would not be able to differentiate between our soul mates and our twin. It is only very much later, nearing the time of the return journey to the spiritual realms that we are able to recognize our twin.
The Breakdown of the Group and Its Return
Taking the example of a group of 128 souls as above, the breakdown goes like this. It is first broken down by half i.e. 64 in each. Then these two sub-groups are further divided into 32, then 16, 8, 4 and ultimately two. The final division is when the last two is separated into twin souls. As the breakdown proceeded from the total group of 128 down to the last twin, there is pain and suffering at every separation, until the last divide the pain is the most excruciating. At this juncture, both twins vowed to seek out each other no matter how long and what hardship it entails. Of course, when the twins meet and merge back again, their task will be to conglomerate and amalgamate the entire group of 128 back to the same original whole again. When will this process start? It will be when the entire group is about to finish with their education on earth. That means in simple religious language, they are about to be enlightened. Or some would have been enlightened already, but there would also be a few stragglers left behind on earth. There could be a long wait at this border of astral/etheric realm, as some of the stragglers may take a much longer time than their fellow soul mates. However, there is some compensation at this juncture because most of the group would have found their twins and some would have already merged with their twins. Although most twin souls tend to be near each other during the last 2 lives, not all are so fortunate. So a few souls may have to wait for their twins at the border. Every member of the original group must be enlightened to merge together before they can start the journey of crossing over to the spiritual realm.
So one can see that from the beginning as primitive man one is able to feel the presence of a fellow soul mate. There is no logical reason for the attraction or liking of the soul mate. The feeling is just there. At this primitive stage, one cannot recognize the soul mate as a twin, although the twin attraction may be the strongest of them all.. That is all. There is no reason or accounting for it. Throughout the hundreds of thousands of incarnations, we have wives or husbands and lovers, and if they are not our twins or soul mates the attraction wanes in the next incarnation. One must also marry or have lovers from other soul groups, some of whom have been antagonistic towards our own soul group. Hence the intense quarrelling and bickering in marriages. However, one must remember that no matter whom we marry or have as our family members every experience in every incarnation is part of our spiritual growth. The reason we separated in the first place is to gather experience and learn to love unconditionally. That means we have to breakout of this mold of inbreeding with our own soul mates and whatever knowledge and wisdom we gather from other soul groups is to enrich our experience. Even in the same soul group, every one of the 128 is a different soul. And although the twins are very similar in character and have almost identical vibrations, they are again different. Their vibrations in this cohesive total group would have encoded the tendencies, characteristics and the level of development into every soul of the group. In other words, the larger the group emitted from the source, the less developed will the soul mates be and therefore the mutual attraction is less powerful than the much smaller groups. The smaller the group and the longer they stayed together, the more developed they are and, therefore, the stronger will be the mutual attraction. This principle will continue until the very Old Soul who will incarnate as an avatar who is composed of a small group of 2, 4 or 8 souls, which do not subdivide. These remain fused as one Old Soul, a sage or an avatar. Although an avatar has to go through the same rounds like the rest of us, he always takes the leading position in whichever kingdom he is in, e.g. lion in the animal kingdom, an oak tree in the vegetable kingdom or as a Buddha or Lao-tzu in a human.
Soul Mates
Soul mates are from a unique group that was discharged aeons ago from the Source. They cohered and were merged for ages as they descend through all the realms down to the physical. The older and wiser groups would have stayed together longer and the more similar they would be, because they would have shared more characteristics when they are together. They would have imbibed through osmosis so many peculiarities, traits, and tendencies from one another. When the 128 souls are distributed throughout the 7 billion citizens of the world, the chances of many soul mates meeting per incarnation are fairly slim. From all the many acquaintances and friends that we meet and know in this life, how many have turned out to be close friends? No more than a handful. Normally it is only one or two. This number would be the same for soul mates.
How do we recognize our soul mates? The best way is to improve our own soul quality in order for our mates to appear. That means we would recognize the soul in the person. When we meet a soul mate, there is an instant liking. Then as we come to know him or her better, we find that there is agreement in things that are important. Our attitude towards life situations is the same, although our interests may be different. The quality of our soul level is very similar: we have compassion, empathy, and realize that the purpose of life is to let go. There is no jealousy arising, and the harmony and love that are flowing to and fro would make us happy in each other’s presence. The love energy between two soul mates can only be surpassed by the love between twin souls. Whilst the love of twin souls is always with the opposite sex that of soul mates can be with both. Strong and lasting homosexual love between two individuals is almost always between soul mates and not twin souls unless one of the twins has decided to change sex for that particular incarnation. Neither is it likely between souls of two different groups. A twin in spirit may guide a grounded twin.
Each soul is supposed to experience everything in the universe before its return to the source. It is definitely impossible for a single soul to do this. Therefore, the scheme of group soul has been formulated in order that each soul can go out and experience as much as possible, but there is no necessity for each to gather all the experiences. When they finally assemble together they would have accumulated and aggregated enough knowledge and wisdom for the whole group, as the sum of the total cargo would be adequate for the entire group to pass the test. The total experience and knowledge is assimilated by all and sundry, and therefore every soul in the group would be just as knowledgeable as the whole group.
The second point in the function of the grouping is the return. Alone, the single soul cannot find its way back to the Source. They can only find their way back when joined as the original group. The group is now greatly enlarged because of its cargo of love and wisdom, although the numbers are the same as before. One can see the joy and happiness of the whole group joined together as a cohesive whole, bubbling its way back to the Source, joining up with other groups on the way up.
As a group the karma earned must now be shared by all. When one soul goes astray, the entire group has to pay for it. So one soul may delay the cross over and ascent of the whole group. However, as some of the souls in the group have done well, so the entire group would also enjoy the fruits thereof.
Soul Mates within a Family
Do soul mates tend to aggregate in one genetic family? The answer is not often. If they do incarnate in one genetic family, it would be mostly two to three in number. The usual number is two. Genetically they would be sister and brother, father and daughter or mother and son or husband and wife. Except as husband and wife, twin souls very rarely incarnate in the same family. This is because of the incestuous tendencies in the other combinations. Some cases of incest between father and daughter is due to the fact that they are twin souls. In the other combinations, certainly favoritism would arise, and that would lead to jealousy and guilt. The soul mates in the same family would not know of the reason for their fondness for each other, let alone for the other members outside the soul group to realize this affinity.
Needless to say, the best arena for spiritual practice is in the earthly family. The diversity of souls from different soul groups and the different levels of maturity provide the right mix and background for all the members in the family to practice. The more advanced members of the family will be able to pull up the less developed members. The challenges, the inequalities and the petty jealousies are all excellent material for growth. Although the souls in one family usually fall into a vibrational range, some of them may come from different soul groups and even from different universes. In the latter cases, the number and extent of conflicts can be quite horrendous, testing the members of the earth family to breaking point. Then there may arise misunderstanding, tension and embittered battles, which will be the perfect scenario for evil forces to intervene. At this point, drug and alcohol addiction, child and wife abuse and murder etc could enter this power play. Heavy karma is then incurred. This precipitate evolution is forced upon the family, as they were too tardy and lackadaisical hitherto. The resistance to growth has resulted in the pain and suffering as a wake up call. Therefore, we can now understand the process in the genesis of family karma.
Companion Soulmates: this is a subdivision of soul mates in which couples in the same group soul have created strong relationships over many incarnations. They may incarnate as husband and wife, brother and sister, father and daughter or mother and son. They may also come down as just mere friends. These companion soulmates might have incarnated together for hundreds of times, but they are not twin souls. Their love for each other is the strongest amongst soul mates, but still it has not the same magnitude as that of a twin soul.
Soul Mates as Married Couples
The love between two soul mates is very intense and strong. In fact quite a few of these love affairs have been written up as famous love stories e.g. "Wuthering Heights," "Romeo and Juliet" and "Gone with the Wind."
That means when soul mates marry, they appear as if they are twin souls, but the discerning can pick up certain telltale signs, which can differentiate one from the other. Although their love and harmony are usually of a grand affair, there will still be fuel for spiritual growth. Fuel in this instance means fodder for disagreements and misunderstandings leading to fights and even separations. In every crisis, if one is willing to learn from the mistakes that accrue from the crisis, then it becomes a spiritual lesson. On the whole, there is much more harmony and peace in a household headed by two soul mates than a family headed by two souls from different groups.
All soul mate relationships are purely for spiritual growth. We achieve this by transforming ourselves, and we can only transform ourselves by learning from others and by interacting with them. This learning must be repeated over and over again until the lessons are learned especially through knowing ourselves. This could then lead to the soul mates loving themselves and then one another. Both would then be able to establish a spiritual ideal that becomes a guiding principle for the whole family to practice with. The ideal soul-mate parents would tend to set an example to their children hoping that the children would grow up to be uprighteous.
Lastly, the married soul mates must work up their relationship into a state of unconditional (soul) love. This love does not ask for any return, thanks or gratitude, but the one would always place the needs of the other above his or her own. After achieving this type of love to our soul mates, we then learn to do the same with the rest of the family. This commodity of divine love should then be spread to whoever comes into our acquaintanceship. And in this way we should be able to treat everybody as if they are our soul mates even though they are not from the same soul group.
Soul Mates as Platonic Friends
There are true friendships without sexual involvement. These could be man-woman friendships or that of the same sex. The friendship is truly platonicand one friend would literally place the wants and needs of the other above his or her own. Idle speculators always misunderstood this type of soul-mate relationship, and they have been wrongly labeled as homosexual or extramarital relationships. These friendships are invariably life long. They often triumph over all sorts of adversities and hardships. The divine or unconditional love of soul mates is here as much as a married couple, but no sex is involved. Some of these are companion soulmates.
Soul Mates as Comrades
Within some group souls, there may be a coming together of more than two to three soul mates for a single mission or purpose. These enlarged gatherings may be seen in political, religious, academic and military groups. There is also an occasional special, select unit, organized to tackle a unique task. You can imagine how concentrated and excited is a group of researchers embarking on a completely new find, a break through that is of Noble Prize status. Then, also is the secretive and subversive political nucleus, which is enthusiastically working under cover to topple the existing corrupt government. All the core groups in these earthshaking endeavours are soul mates with one aim for the good of mankind.
In religion, the exemplary groups are Jesus and his 12 disciples. Jesus is the grand old soul, the avatar. His 12 disciples are from the same group soul. Similarly, the other avatar, Gautama Buddha, was also accompanied by his soul mates. These were his disciples who became enlightened saints, e.g. Sariputta and Moggallana. From these examples we can see the dedication with which these soul mates pursued their goal of forming a new religion for the good of mankind. Near the end not all their disciples had uniform faith. One can now question whether Judas was truly a soul mate of Jesus. Or was he from another soul group? I prefer to believe that he was from the same group, or else Jesus would not have been crucified. Because of his crucifixion and his ‘rising from the dead’ that a new religion was formed.
Groups of Advanced Souls Descending to Service
Throughout the history of the earth, there have been periods during which groups of advanced souls descend to enrich earth’s art and scientific stature. In music, the era of Bach, Beethoven, Brahms, Mozart and Haydn has never been repeated. No other period has seen such giants coming down during such a short span of time. One can also cite the great master painters like Leonardo daVinci, Michelangelo, Raphael etc coming down to improve the artistic quality of the earth. Then you have the great thinkers like Newton, Copernicus, Galileo and Einstein. These geniuses do not come down together at the same time, but they each bring down their scientific and philosophical thoughts during a short span of time e.g. within a couple of centuries, which is short in cosmic time. Then in psychology one has Freud, Jung, Adler, Rank and Reich. These masters definitely put psychology on the map. At the moment, you have the transpersonal psychologists in California, e.g. Ken Wilber, Stanislav and Christina Grof and Roberto Assagioli. Again throughout history, authors of great literature came down in waves in different countries like Russia, China, England and France etc.
These soul-mate groups may not come down at the same time, but their theme is singular and so is their locality: e.g. Europe and the United States. The giant musicians are mainly from Austria and Germany. The psychologists are from Europe. So one can see that their mission or purpose is to propagate divine music or disseminate art or uplift the standard of science. Each group has one aim, and their sole purpose is to promote that aim. One may also guess that the great English writers appearing during the 18th, 19th and 20th centuries may come from the same group.
Twin Souls
Twin souls are the last two souls to individualize. They are the last two peas from the same pod. At that final separation, they vowed to be reunited after they have completed their earthly duties, before they cross over to the spiritual realm for the ascent back to the Source. Whilst they were still fused together in the same pod, their sexual gender is androgynous and not male or female. It is only when they finally separate into individuals that they take on their basic gender of male and female. This basic gender will be with the twins throughout their repeated sojourns on earth until they meet again to merge. Once they merged they revert back to be androgynous. Whilst they are alone, whether they are on earth or in spirit, although they are either basically male or female, both contain the yang and yin elements. In other words, both contain male and female characteristics in each of them, and each of them has to balance the male and female elements to suit their sexual agenda for that incarnation. A basic male will adjust more yang into his psyche. Similarly, a female will have more yin in hers. A basic male who wants to be physically female for a particular incarnation may do so, as he has both elements in his etheric and other subtle bodies.
Another sure pointer to the fact that we have both gender elements in us is at the stage of adolescence. A young boy growing up to be an adult male may have homosexual tendencies like having a crush on another male, usually someone he hero worships. Then when he finally overcomes the traumas of adolescence, he becomes a full-blooded male again, without the slightest homosexual tendency left. This is also true of female adolescence.
We have many soul mates, but each of us has only one twin soul. A twin soul has every ingredient to be a whole individual. He is not a soul cut into half. However, as he has shared the same pod for the entire journey downward towards the physical earth with his twin, that attachment and longing for the twin is always there in the subliminal consciousness. The incessant throbbing of desire for the other twin is never far beneath the subconscious. It becomes more and more cogent when the soul nears the heightened state of enlightenment. That means that as soon as we become humans we have been working and practicing to achieve the ideal state to merge with our twin. This could have taken us hundreds of thousands of incarnations. As twin souls are so alike to start with, they must make the rounds to develop and learn other things so that when they merge the fused twin souls will be much richer. After the fusion, the entity will not be twosome but threesome! According to Omraam Mikhael Aivanhov, ‘a human meets his twin soul twelve times during his incarnations on earth.’ Prior to the ultimate meeting, some of the incarnations are fraught with suffering, like Romeo and Juliet. That means that even though we meet our twin it does not mean a blissful marriage for us. Pain and suffering beset the twins like the rest, but their love with one another is always steadfast. I believe that the last incarnation is different. In this last lifetime, both will be carrying out a mission for the benefit of mankind, and this last life on earth should be free of health and wealth problems. I may be wrong here, but I presume that this should be the case. Otherwise they cannot carry out their duty or mission well. Edgar Cayce and his twin soul, Glynn Davis are a good example. Both were healthy until they died. Glynn died much later, and she was the one that carried out Edgar Cayce' s work till the day she passed over. Glynn Davis was Edgar Cayce's secretary for years. She was hard working, dedicated and methodical and she is the one that recorded all Edgar Cayce's readings for posterity. The twin souls were dedicated to the same service for mankind.
How to Prepare for Our Twin?
We prepare by growing spiritually, so that we become whole and independent. We have to increase our vibrations by eradicating greed, lust and anger. From our normal selfishness we repeatedly convert it to selflessness. The greatest task is to humble ourselves, otherwise pride would blind us to our twin. Then comes a stage of divine discontent, which can be obliterated by forgiveness. Forgive oneself first and then forgive the others. Then learn to love oneself and then others. In the life before the one in which we would be meeting our twins we should be well developed spiritually. Our mission is known, and we would be pursuing our life plan with determination and joy. There would be self-discipline. One twin could be running parallel jobs without realizing the presence of the other. And yet, one twin is helping the other through energy interchange. This process is not recognized by both. The best way to increase our spiritual status is to go inwards. Summarizing the methods for preparation to meet our twin:
  1. Spiritual discipline: Adopt a spiritual discipline, which includes meditation. The latter would accomplish silence and stillness with emptiness of thoughts. In that silence and stillness a small little voice will surface to let us know what further steps to take. This discipline would also help us to eradicate lust, greed, anger, selfishness and pride. It is of course a slow process, but with meditation it is faster than any other method. In the depth of that emptiness and stillness, bliss will automatically arise, and if one is able to retain that bliss, joy and happiness will be our lot throughout the day. ‘Be still and know that I am God’.
  2. Let go: While on this path, the essential goal would be to let go. One must be satisfied with what material comfort that is available to us. ‘Enough is enough’ should be everybody’s motto. The pursuit of the 5 C’s in the developing and developed countries has been the bugbear. They work furiously just to acquire (1) cars, (2) condominium, (3) credit cards, (4) career, and (5) clubs membership to neurotic proportions. They forget that we cannot take it with us. A story here would illustrate this point brilliantly. A young student is sent overseas to study certain skills. This overseas country has a currency control. No money may be brought in or taken out of the country. However the student may earn a living to feed himself and pay for his tuition fees. The scholarship is for ten years. So he took a part time job while studying the skills that he was sent to learn. This part time job was so successful that in two years he made it a full time job. Then he acquired a flat, a car with credit cards. He joined prestigious clubs of that country, and he made his lucrative job his career, forgetting what he went there for. The skills that he went to learn were compassion, wisdom and unconditional love. All these were totally forgotten. So by the end of ten years at which time he has to go home, he failed miserably to acquire these skills. Neither could he bring home all his wealth because the foreign country does not allow any expatriation of its currency, and also his home country does not use money. The currency in his home is karma and merit. This is exactly what happens to all of us, except that the length of overseas study is between 50 to 80 years and not ten. And the country of our foreign study is planet earth. Our home is the spirit world.
  3. Our path and skills: We are all endowed with certain skills, carried over from past lives. We follow our propensities and the one that gives us the most happiness should be grasped and developed as a profession or vocation. It may not be lucrative at all, but nevertheless it is satisfying. With this talent as his lifework he may be able to earn a living as well as provide a service to mankind. That means if one’s job were to help the handicapped, the aged sick or retarded children then one’s occupation would also be part of one’s spiritual growth. If our work is to teach the young, equally one should put one’s heart and soul into the teaching and not merely take the teaching as earning one’s keep. The teacher should also instill spiritual qualities in his instructions.
  4. Nature and Nurture: In our recreation, one should indulge in nature. Exercising on the beach or in the woods or amongst the trees is par excellence. Walking in the woods, swimming in the seas and gardening to grow flowers and bushes for beauty should be actively cultivated. Other forms of recreations should include appreciation of classical music. Mozart, Brahms, Beethoven, Schubert and Mahler are the music of choice. If one is not familiar with these composers, try to learn to appreciate them. Loud, rock music especially of the hard metal variety should be avoided at all costs, because these types of music would definitely end up in deafness and it also arouses our third chakra to unseemly proportions. Lastly, one should care for this body and mind. Proper food, vegetables and fish, and avoidance of alcohol, drugs and smoking constitute clean living. Then enough rest in the form of sleep should do for the ordinary person, but for the spiritually minded, meditation is a must.
  5. The penultimate step: From now onwards we must behave as if every relationship could possibly be the ultimate one. She or he may not be the right one, but at least we know how to behave when we finally meet the real twin. Every time we enter into a relationship, we treat the other person as if he or she is our twin. The other person’s happiness must be above our own. We go to great lengths to make the other happy and secure even to our own detriment. One must remember that at this penultimate stage, both twins are on the verge of enlightenment and periods of loneliness or solitude invariably accompanies the seekers. These periods of loneliness are a false sense of separation from our soul. Therefore, meditating inwards to realize our true self is an immediate solution. When our true self is realized, bliss is there. The loneliness and sadness will vanish right away with the light accompanying the soul.
Recognizing the Twin
Twin souls have the same vibrations. They come form the same mould, although not from the same womb. They are like one person bisected into two, but not one soul divided into two. Therefore, even after millions of years of separation, when they meet they know instinctively that that this is the twin. Their vision, feeling and purpose are one. They see the same vision from the same spot, unlike two other people with two different sets of eyes, which see the same scene juxtaposed with one another. The twin souls see the same scene with their combined third eye. The scene arouses the same feeling in both, although both are of different personalities. In fact what they see may even be complimentary. This must be the case, as they are now brought together for a single purpose. The feeling for each other is nothing less than divines love. The unconditionality of their love equals loving your neighbour as thyself or loving the other as yourself. One does not love the other despite the other’s faults; one loves the other for the other’s faults as much as for the other’s virtues.
The love of twin souls is an ideal to be copied by all. The harmony and care do not allow of envy, irritation or exasperation for the other. Pain and suffering are not allowed to emerge from either party. If there is any infliction of pain it is due to an error of omission or lack of awareness. There is absolutely no intention to hurt.
The First Meeting
As mentioned by Omraam Mikhael Ivahov, twin souls meet about twelve times in our human incarnations. That means before this last sojourn, there could have been at least eleven previous meetings. Every meeting would have been melodramatic, memorable and electric. According to Sufi teachings, twin souls are like two Roman rings interlocking with each other. They may come very close when they enter a relationship in an incarnation, which means the two rings almost superimpose. But when they separate due to disagreements or reincarnating in different countries, the rings try to break away, but it is not possible. They remain inter-linked throughout their sojourns on earth and during intermissions in spirit. There is always a varying amount of common space between the two rings. During any twin-soul encounter, it is bound to be hypnotically momentous. A special feeling of energy seems to pass from one to the another beyond their control. This passage of energy is both nice and exciting. This is twin soul recognizing one another without involving the intellect. These twin souls encounter the same feeling and the same quality of love and it means the end of their loneliness. However, not all meetings of twin souls end well. Some cannot even get together. Some divorce after marriage, and they die without fulfillment. Of course, these are not their last incarnations.
Now in the last meeting before their ascent to the spiritual realms, both twins are either enlightened or nearly so. Therefore at this stage the recognition must be mutual. As they are so developed their mission in this last incarnation has a common purpose. Having the same aspirations, both would be working for the good of humanity. Their same intensity of love and compassion would make them persistent in their common pursuit. One could be the leader or innovator whilst the other is the steady workhorse. Both must be preferably, in either in arts or in science. So that the effort is not dissipated by one being in the arts and the other in science. However, this fact is not essential. Their common goal is generally to uplift and enhance the quality of humanity. Both could be in the healing profession or in the promotion of arts etc. Even if they do not work in the same place, having the same vision their work could become complimentary, since they have the same preferences, tastes and predilection. Their mental capacity is of the same order. Their tastes in food, music and sense of humour are all the same. Both will either like the mountains or the sea. Their handwriting and the lines on their palms are similar. At this stage of development, they both possess a polished sense of humour and are good-natured. One could go on ad nauseam. You have to meet a couple of twin souls yourself to see how much in unison they behave. Of course, as human beings there may be twin souls who still have some differences and friendly competition may ensue. The outcome is the betterment of humanity. The so-called fight would not last long and the make-up is the sweeter. Sometimes twin souls appear to be doing the same thing at the same time, e.g. writing letters to one another at the same time.
Before the meeting, the twins usually can sense that the time is coming near for them to meet. Then when they meet during the last incarnation, the charged electricity and explosion would indicate in no uncertain terms that ‘this is it’. However, this is not the end. Rather, it is the beginning of an ongoing process in this last incarnation. Both have still to develop and practice. Both have to continue to work at themselves so that their perfection will entitle them to journey in the spiritual realms forever never to return to earth.
When they do meet, the age difference is of no consequence to them. The disparity could be as much as fifty years, but it is totally of no importance to the twins. They do not try to change each other for both accept each other as they are. Both are usually in the same state of health: both are either healthy or both are in the same state of incapacity. Both normally have strong telepathic linkages, and if one is sad so is the other. Conversely, happiness in one very often infects the other even though they may be thousands of miles apart. Lastly, both tend to incarnate into similar social circumstances; otherwise some difficulties may arise due to the disparate social status.
False Twin
Sometimes in our enthusiasm we see a twin when he or she is not one. In a joyful relationship, the mistake is understandable. However, the mistake may be stretched until both parties are hurt, more so by the dreamer. We grab at the similarities and enlarge them to fantasy level. Then when the relationship is dying, when everybody else can see it, the illusion is still perpetuated to our great cost.
With our karma we formulate our G-plan (life plan) before coming down to earth. Our G-plan can still be modified or changed because of our freedom of choice. On the other hand in the matter of our twin, there is no choice. From the moment we individualize, our twin is destined to come back to us in the final incarnation. No amount of imagination or wishing can bring forth our twin at the time we want it.
In our loneliness, we are very vulnerable. We ourselves may construct the delusion and the make belief will drive us further away from our true twin. So-called gurus, who will pronounce to a lonely woman that she is his twin soul, may also accentuate the illusion. After some time the guru will discard this ‘twin’ and go for another. The same ploy is used. Because he is a guru the woman tends to believe him implicitly. Sometimes the guru even mentions that he has two twins! This false guru dazzles the disciple with his light, as the victim wants to believe because of her loneliness, and it is better to have a twin who is a guru than to have one who is an ordinary person.
The time to meet our twin is beyond our control. It entirely depends on the spiritual progress of the twins. After sounding the warning above, I would like to end this section with a cheerful note. As we cross over to the Aquarian age, there will be many meetings of twin souls, much more than hitherto. This is the good news. That also means that at each meeting the twosome will emit a light much brighter than the sum of two. It also means that with so many twins joining up throughout the whole world, there will be a great proliferation of lights across the globe, and this on its own will change the consciousness of planet earth. We would certainly be entering the age of enlightenment during this Aquarian age.
Twin Soul Sex
When they do meet, physical sex will not be the end all and be all of all pleasures. Of course, they still enjoy sexual pleasure, but it is no more the ultimate. It is love between two bodies as well as two souls. At this present age very few twins are already consummating their union in spirit. Physically they do not have to be together. They may be thousands of miles apart, but their spirits meet and conjoin. The joy and pleasure is much more satisfying than physical lovemaking. This is the opinion of all those who have experienced it.
Twin Soul Difficulties
When twin souls first meet even in their final incarnation, some of them will have differences in physical, emotional and intellectual content of the two personalities. Firstly, one soul has to adjust his difficulties within himself. Then he has to match whatever he has to the other. That means he has to clear all his own foibles, needs, cravings and ill will before he meets his twin as a fully satisfied individual. He should be ready to serve the other by putting the requirements of the other twin before his own. And vice versa. The struggle between themselves and together will definitely go to enhance the twinship. This is so because they have different psychological background and different personalities with emotional divergence. There will be normal conflicts when the two have such a close relationship, but the conflicts will be rapidly resolved. This is because their goal is the same. The emotional conflict is almost unbearable because they are twins. So in order not to see the other suffer, they tend to solve the problem as soon as possible.
As they have been travelling by themselves, they have earned good and bad karma of their own. Once they meet and work together, they must now try and clear both karmic debts jointly. Similarly, good karma earned by both independently will be enjoyed by both. In fact, as karma is created at the soul level, both have been influenced by the other’s karma imperceptibly.
There will definitely be stress in some couples, and in these they may even break up temporarily. Some couples will have to suffer together because of joined karma. There are so many possibilities in so many combinations and permutations. In some, the different backgrounds and karma would have brought together two very different individuals. This fact does not bother them at all. In this instance, "opposites do attract". All the differences go to complement their lives. So differences in physical, emotional and psychological make up do not tear them apart irrevocably, because their souls are joined together like Siamese twins. The compatibility here is at the spiritual level. That alone counts.
Obstacles to be encountered
The obstacles within the individual should mostly be solved by the time of the meeting. However, there may be few external obstacles that present themselves. One or both twins could have already been married when they meet. The eternal triangle is usually dealt by the almost enlightened individuals with accommodation to the existing families. If one were to hear that someone has walked out on the family to be with his or her twin soul, one can rest assured that it is not a twin soul union in their final incarnation. The already committed twin is too responsible and would continue to honour the pre-existing marriage. The twins will know that there must be a very good reason for this inconvenience. It could be a test or because of unresolved karmic obligations. The twins would then remain as loving friends or colleagues without marriage disruptions. This is due to fact that they are no more powered by passionate physical sex, as their love is above that. They may meet at night in spirit for the purpose of uplifting a common cause. They may meet in either the astral or mental world. They know that their separation is temporary and nothing in the world can stop their final union. Of course very occasionally their meeting could precipitate a marriage breakup, but this is with a marriage that is already collapsing. The breakup may induce some benefit to the aggrieved members, who can start anew with their own new partners. With this in mind, the twins who are uniting in this last incarnation, would have cultivated fidelity, joy, love and trust, and their union would be as solid as a rock.
However, there may still be a few cases, where one soul has not reached the same level as the other. One partner may outgrow the other, and the demands of the less developed may be irksome to most other partners. However to the developed twin this mild set back must be met with tolerance and patience, otherwise the growth may be stunted. At this juncture it is a shame to let the stunting be a deterrent for further growth. For instance, if one soul were to suffer from some neurotic illness, this fact may be detrimental for both. So the care-giving partner has to sacrifice his smooth progression to confront the neurotic partner with the truth of the difficulty. This may rock the marriage, but it has to be done. You do not spare the rod because you are afraid to hurt the naughty child. The soft stance will hurt the child more at a later date. This self-sacrifice must be persistent and long standing otherwise it will not work, for most neurotic diseases are brought over from past lives. The effort is worth it for it is for the mutual good of both, and the reward is enlightenment with the ultimate union with one’s twin. Thence the cross over to the higher spiritual realms never to return to earth again!
Every body on earth has been drawing closer and closer to his or her twin soul, whether they know it or not, whether they want it or not. The journey of this search started the minute we individualize aeons ago. In the earlier stages, we were ignorant of this treasure hunt. We just obeyed our instincts and desires. It is only now when we are crossing over to the Aquarian age that we are much more aware of the reason for this path. There appears to be some degree of urgency in this search, just because we are nearing the end of our search. When we are going to meet our twin is not for us to know. It can be tomorrow or even the next life. As in the mystic path, when one finds oneself in the ‘dark night of the soul’, one knows that the time is nigh. At this stage of our search, the loneliness is intense. This darkness of sadness, suffering and pain has no end in sight. However, lo and behold one’s twin suddenly turns up at the next corner! She could be the nurse, doctor or the social worker. Or the twin may be at the church gathering that you started to attend. One never knows, but the twin will certainly appear. If it is not in this life, then it will be the next life at the latest. So do not despair. The twin will definitely turn up. You have no choice in this matter.

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How to Tell if You've Found Your Ultimate Soulmate, or Twin Flame

An article describing the nuances of twin flame love and the ultimate soul mate; how to spot if you are with such a mate, and how to summon such a mate.

For anyone who has ever been in love, or dreamed of being in love, an age-old question often prevails through time and the pondering of one's mind: is he/she my soul mate? Are they the one? What if I were to tell you that there is a way to know? What if I were to tell you that there are universal similarities across all soul mates and twin flames which are significant and profound? Well, this is very true. Everyone has a soul mate, or several, and one twin flame. A soul mate is someone who may have shared a past life connection with you, or come from the same cluster of souls when yours was breathed/formed into life. It is possible for a person to have many soul mates. Twin flames, however, are much more rare and difficult to come by. Twin flames are the other half of a person's soul; the yin to their yang, the feminine to the masculine, etc, etc. A twin flame is the ultimate soul mate, the one we are naturally seeking throughout our lifespan and the one we will be with on our last life on earth; with whom we shall ascend with. At least this is what the doctors, psychologists and psychics who share an interest in such a concept say in agreement.
When a soul is created it is split into two separate souls which embody the masculine and feminine. These are the twin flames. It is said that these two flames descend upon earth and take on different lives, reincarnate and grow as individuals, each having completely different experiences. It is believed that a soul must experience every human experience before ascending and the twin flames often share opposite experiences due to this so as to gain enough experience, thus ascending faster. There are, however, often similarities as well. Once the twin flames grow enough as individuals, they will meet and come together. This is a very intense situation. It is also said that this is becoming much more frequent of an occurrence since our advancements in the fields of psychology and self-help are allowing people to grow and evolve much faster. The union and purpose of twin flames is often to perform the work of God or the ultimate life-force/energy for the betterment of the world and/or service work. More and more twin flames are becoming united right now in human history than ever before.
Our twin flame embodies the other half of our soul, so if a person isn't happy within him/herself, they will often dislike and have discord with their twin soul, as it is a reflection of their own. It is said that twin flames rarely incarnate at the same time, so finding yourself a twin flame can be incredibly rare. One should not lose hope, however, as the twin will often act as guardian angel from above, and each relationship we have is seen as practice to prepare us for our twin: the ultimate relationship. When twins are united there may be extraordinary circumstances such as an age difference or that one or both of them are already married or in a committed relationship. When this happens it is best to honor the other's arrangements as it could spawn negative karma if tampered with in an unruly manner.
Upon meeting one's twin it is said that there is an immediate connection and attraction toward each other. This is much like a love at first sight occurrence. Romeo and Juliet were said to be twin flames, meeting in inopportune situations and not being able to live without the other. The energy felt between twins is much like an explosion. Soul mates who are not twins will feel similar energy, but less intense and more steady and stable. This energy with the twin can be extremely intense and cause a whirlwind in one's life. People often become scared of this and run away. It is also common for twin flames to break up at least once for a period of time for self-growth before re-emerging together. Hugging a twin can be much like a soul mate in that it is like coming home for oxygen and nourishment.
This nourishing feeling can attract twins like magnets and keep them by each other's side for long periods of time. It may feel so comforting being held by a twin that the two become very attached. It is common for twins to spend as much time together as possible as they long for and crave each other. It is believed by some that we are constantly looking for and desiring our twin flame subconsciously. Sometimes when twins meet their souls are not right which will cause them to seriously dislike each other until they grow more. It is believed that we do meet our twins occasionally throughout other lives, and that in one's last life on earth the twins will join together so as to complete their destined service work and ascend together. Asking for one's soul mate could easily result in meeting one's twin flame. This will often be a person who pushes all of your buttons and delivers karma into your life from your past. The less baggage twins have before coming together, the less negative karma will be bestowed on the relationship.
Relationships between twins can often be described as a rollercoaster ride. This is due to the karmic connection and reflection of one's own soul. The more self-actualized a person is, the less drama there will be between his/herself and their twin. Also, the faster the twins learn and grow as individuals, the faster their rollercoaster relationship will smooth out and become more stable. It is important to note that dealing with a twin flame is unlike any other relationship. The connection is through the soul rather than physical, so the relationship must be handled from a spiritual, soul-centered viewpoint, rather than any physical, jealous or controlling habits and patterns of this realm.
Twin flames often resemble each other in appearance. It is common for them to appear related and complement each other physically and characteristically, although in no way does this suggest they are of the same nationality. In fact, twin flames often find themselves traveling large distances across the world before meeting. As they are two parts (two whole souls who were once one) of the same soul they will often have different interests, qualities and experiences. They may often find themselves being complemented on what a great couple they are or asked if they are related. Twin flames also share the same natural rhythm and vibrations. Every soul has a natural energy and vibration to it that can be felt in everyone when they are touched, held or are in close proximity to. The twin flames will have the same natural vibrations.
Along with having the same vibrations, twin flames share a connection that is often telepathic. At least one of the twins is usually very connected to spirit and it is often common for twins to share similar thoughts and feelings at the same time; feeling each others emotions and energy when they are separated. Twins often can sense what the other is doing and feeling when apart, and even communicate telepathically. It is said that this connection forms before the twins actually meet each other. It is also possible for twins to meet in their dreams through lucid type experiences. Everything about the twin flame connection will feel profound, spiritual, even magical.
Another powerful phenomena existent within twin flames is the number 11 11. This is the highest spiritual number (11) and the significance of 11 11 is profound and surrounds the twins. Dates, ages, and anything pertaining to the couple and numbers will often become 11 11. For example, I met my twin flame on 8/6/08. This adds up to be 22 which is 11 11 when split in half. Our anniversary is 8/8/08 which is also lucky in the Chinese zodiac as well as the symbol for triple infinity. There will be multiple signs as this, or more personal when you meet your twin flame.
Twin flames love to be together and connected, and lovemaking is the ultimate expression of this. For the twins, the focus of sexual contact is not always about the pure physical satisfaction of it, but the closeness and bond as well. The bond between twin flames can be so intense during lovemaking that the connection alone is sufficient satisfaction rather than a pure orgasm. Twins have been known to enjoy just being connected, falling asleep attached and loving this above the actual act of sex. The sex can be very rewarding, and the passion between twins can sometimes be so powerful that it can be frightening to some, especially if they aren't ready for their twin.
Controversy surrounding the twins masculine/feminine incarnation has arisen as some say twins must be of the opposite sex, while others believe that the souls can elect to change in between incarnations. Some even believe the twins may be versatile in each incarnation depending on the sexes they happen to incarnate as, and may transform from heterosexual to homosexual depending on the sex of their twin. Regardless of the physical sex, the twins will embody both the masculine and the feminine. It is also interesting to note similarities in astrological signs among twins. Mercury is the sign ruler of Virgo and Gemini. While traditional compatibility suggests these two are not a desirable match, several Gemini’s find themselves with Virgos and vice versa upon asking the universe to send them a true, ultimate soul mate.
Athough the initial twin flame connection can be a rollercoaster, and the couple may break up if not ready, they eventually find themselves back together. It is in their destiny to ascend together, and the only thing that can keep twin flames apart are their own decisions and life choices. Twin flames will feel very drawn together and this is something that may never go away for them as is typical in average relationships. Although twins may separate, and go their separate ways, they will eventually reemerge, perhaps in another life once they are evolved and educated enough in terms of the soul and all it has learned through life. This intense connection and power of the flames gives new meaning to the Bible verse Matthew 19:6 which is traditionally quoted in wedding ceremonies and states: "That which God has joined together let no man put asunder."
The twin flame connection may be looked at as a blessing or a curse depending on the condition of one's soul. It is also possible for one to believe they are with their twin when it is really a karmic connection meant to bring about learning into one's life and nothing more. Soul mates may also be confused as twin flames as there are some similarities. The important thing to remember is that even though you may believe you are with your twin, there is always room for self growth, reflection, nourishment and cultivation. Also, there is only so much you can do on your end to grow as a soul. Twins may not be ready for each other at the same time which could cause some strain and pain. It's not the end of the world if you cannot or are not with your twin. Everything happens for a reason and there is learning and blessings in each walk and circumstance in life. Keeping one's eye on the big picture of life, and personal growth is the ultimate key. It is possible to ask God to manifest your twin flame through your current lover, or to guide you to your twin. You must, however, be careful about what you ask for. If you meet your twin before you are ready, you may be in for the scariest roller coaster ride of your life. This could be a good or bad thing depending on your outlook on life.

When Twin Flames connect!

When Twin Flames Connect

Throughout all of our lives, whether we were aware of it or not, we have in fact always been "connected" to our Twin Flames. Even before we ever reunited with our twins, we have always shared our Divine Compliments emotions. Being connected, we have shared them with our Twins in happiness and sadness, in sickness and in good health, and from the physical plain to the astral plain. But, when Twins come together in the flesh, even if they are unable to make a life together for a myriad of possible reasons, nothing can keep them apart - not walls, not chains, not oceans, and not even if they live on separate continents. Twin Flames - when they come together, are able to defy all laws that apply to this physical realm - a dualistic plain that is collapsing now, into oneness.

Whether or not you have found your Twin here on earth, in the flesh, or on the astral plain, you are aware of the psychic connection that you both share - it is automatic! However, if you are looking for your twin, seeking advice on these divine relationships, or trying to hone your newfound abilities after the recent discovery of your Twin Soul, then maybe you will find something in the body of this article to help you - better connect. Just think of it as one Twin Soul offering help to another Twin Soul. Which is what we are supposed to be doing, right?

So, how do Twin Flames connect? Simply put - they connect across all space and time through LOVE. That is it! There is no incense burning, no wizard behind the curtains, and no smoke & mirrors. Love is the key to connecting with your Twin Soul. Without love, nothing is possible. However, when the Twins keep their hearts open and full with the love of their divine counterpart's essence and energy, th ey are connected! When Twin Flames become filled with love, they can experience everything that their other half is experiencing across all time, space and distance. You may see, touch, taste, smell, feel, and be with one another if you so desire.
Let us say that you have found your Twin, and that you want to "see" him or her. You know you are connected and you are certain that you are in love, but you cannot be together because you are separated by distance. So here is what you can do - close your eyes, and begin to think of all those things that you love about your Twin - especially their Essence. Envision yourself as being right there with your Twin and feel your heart fill with love. When your heart is all "big inside" or "full," this is when your connection is at its strongest and will help to amplify your experience. Therefore, when you feel your heart fill with love, with eyes closed, envision that you are literally right there with your Twin and you may be surprised at the clarity with which you will be able to perceive him/her. This is not imagination, although the approach is similar. Speaking from experience, you will literally be able to SEE your Divine Compliment - in real time! Moreover, it does not always require a meditative mode or state of being. Some of you will be able to see your Twin Soul wherever and whenever you want. You may see them driving in their cars, at the computer, in bed, or at work - and it will not matter, eve n if you live in Australia and he lives in Europe.

Seeing your Twin Flame across space and time may take some practice and getting used to. After all, we are not actually seeing with our eyes anymore. We perceive them across time and space through the vibe of love - similar to the way shamans would journey in the days of old. If you and your twin are able to communicate, via the phone or internet, share your experiences with each other and verify them for accuracy. This will help you fine-tune your abilities and help you to understand the difference between real and imaginary. However, I would be willing to bet, you will both be very surprised at how accurate this vibe of love really is. The vibe of love connecting Twin Flames is a star gate, a wormhole, and a time machine all in one. In addition, when Twin Flames come together in divine love, they receive access to the Kingdom of God.

Connecting with your Twin Flame, in the act of love or sex, whether you are with or without him/her, is the most beautiful display of creation one can ever experience. Making love with your Twin is unlike any other love you will ever have made. It is dreamlike, it is electric, it is Heaven, and I could go on and on and never find the appropriate words in any language on this planet to accurately describe its true meaning or essence. It is simply impossible because the experience itself goes beyond words and imagination. Nevertheless, it is the human dream - the pinnacle of all life experiences - the divine union of masculine and feminine energy.

Sex with your Twin Flame is rarely about self-pleasure, because each of you will be so intent upon giving or serving the other that it will not matter. The=2 0joy is really in the giving! In fact, your love for one another will be so great that you may feel as though you could just give all day long and be just as satisfied even if you never received a bean from the other. Lovemaking with your divine counterpart can and does last for hours. If it were not for the daily necessities of having to eat and drink just to stay alive, the two of you could go on and on until you collapse in exhaustion. Yet, even then, you may find yourself wanting to display your affection in ever changing new ways of love.

Now, let us say that you have found your twin but cannot be with each other because you live on opposite ends of the earth. Being connected, you may find that you are able to make love to your twin through the dream state, in meditation, over the phone, and by simply closing your eyes and envisioning yourself doing so. It is quite that simple. Remember, this is not self-pleasure; there are no hands required or need for the Twin to be there physically. The only thing you need to have to make love to your Twin when you're separated by distance are hearts full of love, which in turn creates an open connection between the two of you, whereby you will be able to send and receive20- LOVE! Through this vibe of love you will literally be able to make love to your twin without ever laying a hand on him/her and in turn and you may receive all the pleasures that you would if you were there, physically - but only be tter - much better! The secret to success in making love while you are, separated, will depend only on how much "Love" you hold with your Twin.

Let us say that you have decided to meditate on your Twin Soul and you are both aware that you will be meditating on each other at exactly the same time. Once again, close your eyes and let your heart be filled with the essence of your Divine Compliment. Next, envision yourself (without expectation) as standing or sitting directly in front of him/her. The key to successfully contacting your twin is in the envisioning of him/her. Through the vibe of love that you have for each other you may visit each other wherever and whenever you want!

Once you have made contact with your Twin and have a visual the rest is up to you. For me, personally, I prefer to go right up to my Twin at first contact and kiss her. How could I not? I find her irresistible. In addition, do not be surprised to see your Twin "split" from the physical form if they have not done so by the time you reach him/her. This is normal but may take some time to digest if you have not experienced it before. After all, it is very profound! With the realization of the power that you have, some of you may be able to try it all on and find that it fits like a glove, while for others it may take some time to accept - especially while you balance out any karma from the past. In the beginning it may seem overwhelming at first as if what you are experiencing is like something out of a Hollywood film. Words of advice - Welcome your Twin Soul and the newfound abilities that go with this relationship because you will never find another like it.

Other things you may notice while being with your Twin in the spirit world is that you may choose to perceive each other, as he/she would appear in the physical, or you may perceive your Twin as pure energy. The perceiving of your Twin in the physical is enough, alone, for the beginner to be "wowed," but when you see and feel the pure energy of your twin soul, this can create an overwhelming sense of ecstasy that can sometimes be so powerful as to break you from your meditation or snap you back to the physical. When this happens, take a break! There will be other times, because your love, which equals the ability to touch each other across time and space, is going nowhere, for you are awakened. Simply being together, you collapse all time, space and distance. You are the human dream!

As an end note: Paula (my Twin Soul) and I believe, as we are now beginning to experience, that as more and more Twin Souls reunite and "come online," so to speak, a collective consciousness will e merge. This collective consciousness will not only link yourself to your twin, but will link you to all other Twin Souls that are out there. As more and more Twin Souls come online, the speed and connection we have to work with will improve. We are literally creating our own web of communication made possible by LOVE. We could all very well be linked together through this collective consciousness, which is now accessible.

The Eternal Nature of Love

The Eternal Nature of Love

Love never dies. In fact, love is truly the only thing that we can take with us when we die, and then beyond into our next life. But how does love "survive death"? Do we really have soul mates that we have loved and lost over the course of many lifetimes? How will we recognize them? Is this what we mean by "love at first sight"? How will we meet them, and is it destined that we will? What is love anyway?
Well, let's begin with the last question. What is love? It is quite possible the most over- and misused term in the world, love is something that we use to describe our favorite food, a movie we really enjoyed, the color we just painted our bedroom, and George Clooney (whom I love). We even sign letters and email correspondence with this word, even if it is to someone that we have only met a few times.
But, we all love to talk about, think about and even dream about love. It is an essential part of being human, and no matter how many times we can "fall" in or out of love; we still feel a powerful drive toward it. Our desire to love and be loved is deeply embedded in our consciousness, and it will make us act in the oddest ways sometimes.
Perhaps what love actually is has been encoded in our collective psyche, and our loose usage of the term might reflect this. We use the "L word" to describe everything and everyone that we find pleasing, or positive in some way. We "love" everything that we perceive as "good" (and therefore we can actually love all by perceiving it as "good"- but we're working on that one, right?). This positive perception that we make about someone or something is energy, or intent, and love is this energy.
Think about it. You love chocolate, but your best friend hates it (probably not a viable example, as I can't imagine anyone would actually hate chocolate, but follow me here). Is it different chocolate that you are both consuming? No, it is only your perception of the chocolate that differs. You are emanating positive energy toward the chocolate that you are enjoying, as you choose (mostly subconsciously) to perceive it as pleasant. That vibration, or energy that you give off with each pleasurable bite creates an emotional reaction that becomes what we recognize as the feeling of "being in love".
This love energy works the exact same way with people. For example, two people standing next to each other can have completely different energy toward, and therefore subsequent emotional response, to a potential romantic partner who walks by. One will "love them" with a positive perception, while the other might either find them neutral or even negative and regard that person with disdain. The point here is that the person exuding the energy has a choice (acted upon subconsciously, mind you) as to whether that vibration is positive or negative. And, as equally as we can give love energy, we can also receive it. And also, the person walking by these two different energy sources will usually feel the difference in the way that they have been perceived; this is what we call feeling a "vibe" from someone.
The fact that love is actually just energy is the key to understanding how it can survive death, and then subsequently be brought back with us as we reincarnate. This is because, according to physics and the law of conservation of energy, it (meaning energy, or love energy) cannot be created nor destroyed; it can only change forms. Thanks to Galileo (whom I also love), we have an example of how this works. His experiment with a swinging pendulum demonstrated that kinetic energy (movement) when it was interrupted still contained the same amount of energy, only in potential form. If this theory is true then, and love energy cannot be created or destroyed, then it can only change forms. So, when we die (and change forms as well, as we are in essence made of energy too) we take all of our love with us and then bring it back again when we reincarnate in our next life.
Now, the science behind love and attraction is an incredibly complicated (sorry for the obvious major understatement here) process, as our subconscious minds do play an enormous role in it. Our subconscious is a vast space filled with suppressed thoughts, unexpressed emotions, intense fears, deeply embedded attitudes, as well as our memories from this, and other lifetimes. Because it is such a large and complex place, the fact that our choice of love partners is mainly ruled by our subconscious mind is exactly why the how and why of this process is so darn confusing.
The most important thing to be aware of here is that energetically (subconsciously) we are all seeking a soul mate. And remember, there are different types of soul mates, so this can be more than a little bit tricky to navigate. Because a soul mate is anyone that you have known before in a past life, there are a lot of different ways that this can work, both positively and negatively. (For more on this, please refer to the previous post "The Reality of Soul Mates").
You can have a crazy, animalistic attraction that defies all reason to someone that you have some heavy karma to work out with, as well as to the soul mate that is the biggest love of this millennium. This is important to remember as we try to understand how it is possible to be separated or divorced from your soul mate, as well as the role that destiny plays in this process. You meet the soul mate that you are meant to meet, when, where and how you are destined to meet, for a divine purpose that involves our spiritual growth and development.
So then, how does this never destroyed love energy translate into our incredibly complex romantic love lives in our current incarnation? The energy of romantic love is actually in essence the same as our feelings of love toward others that we love such as parents, children, siblings, friends, etc. (and on a very simple level, maybe it's even energetically the same as our feelings of love for our favorite sandwich), only on steroids.
Our romantic partnerships can and do become quite intense. We all subconsciously seek a partner, the "yin to our yang", the one who will "complete us", even though being in this type of one-on-one relationship is actually one of the most difficult things we can do in life. It's incredibly tough to live with someone else, to share the bills and the bathroom, and to allow another human being to see all of you, complete with your flaws and weaknesses. And, I am sorry to inform you that there is no such thing as a soul mate that will come along and "complete us". This is unfortunately, a total myth.
Being a "whole", or complete person yourself and fully balanced both mentally and spiritually, who is committed to another "whole" person is the goal here. So, the work that needs to be done here is the work that we do on ourselves, becoming whole and balanced as individuals. And then in addition to that, we need to learn to be open, communicative, receptive, present, passionate and compassionate to our partner as well. We all know that this is something that even the most enlightened among us struggle with, as love is really, really hard work, even for soul mates.
When you have spent many lifetimes loving another person, you will have a powerful connection that most people will recognize when they encounter it. And, because your love never dies, it is possible to pick up where you have left off in a previous life. Although you will have some catching up to do concerning your comings and going the last few hundred years, your soul mate relationship has a story to it, and you have a history together. So, maybe what we call "love at first sight" is really just a love reunion.
This type of a soul mate with whom you have loved and lost over many centuries will feature an eerie sense of familiarity, like you have known each other before, and sometimes even an uncanny innate understanding of each other. And, this connection will become more and more intense with each lifetime that a couple spends together. The grief, loss, sorrow, and therefore longing for one another after having been separated by death again and again creates a powerful energy link between two people. In fact, this link can be so profound that it is possible to have a psychic, or even telepathic connection to this person that can be very real indeed, even if you have never met. I often hear of soul mates that dreamed of one another years before their initial meeting, or felt a deja vu sensation when they first saw each other. Soul mates can even sometimes read one another's thoughts or finish each others' sentences. A soul mate connection on this level may very well freak you or your partner out.
Usually there are more than a few synchronicities, or strange parallels in the lives of two soul mates as well. They will have things in common that go far beyond their favorite color or food, such as maybe they will have both lost their father at the same early age, gotten married or divorced in the same year, their families have vacationed in the same place every summer for years, or had the same life threatening illness simultaneously several years before they met. I worked with a New York City based couple once who had both worked in the same restaurant in Cleveland, although a few years apart. I know someone else who had worked down the hall from where his future wife's office was, probably passing each other in the hall or the elevator almost daily, ten years before they actually met. There is a reason for the existence of all of the various romantic legends involving soul mates, because sometimes the truth really can be stranger than fiction.
I have a good friend who, when she was in her late teens, saw a man performing a musical number on television. Upon seeing him, she told everyone who was with her that he was the man that she would marry. Years later when she met her husband at a party given by mutual friends, she felt a connection with this man like she had never felt, as if they knew each other already. Only after they had been dating for several months did she realize that it was he who she had seen on TV so many years before, and they have now been married for many years and have two children together. Nearly everyone who knows them or has been around them can feel the powerful, yet peaceful connection that this dynamic couple has with each other. This is an actual romantic, real life soul mate story about two people who were destined to meet and be together, and have been together many times before in other lifetimes. Their love for each other had never died, and was waiting to be rediscovered and then built upon in this life.
Now, not all of us are as psychic and in tune as my friend, or are lucky enough to have seen their soul mate on TV (although I do love George Clooney, food for thought perhaps...). So, how will we recognize them when we do meet them? In addition to the way that a soul mate connection feels, as well as the sense of familiarity, there are several ways that we can recognize a soul mate. When you look deeply into someone's eyes, which are truly the "windows of the soul", you can find the part of a person that goes beyond their current physical appearance. Another way that you can recognize someone's soul, or the part of him or her that is immortal and knew you before comes from hearing the sound of their voice. There will be a spark, or a reminiscent quality in the voice of a soul mate that will arouse an ancient memory buried deep in your subconscious.
Another way to recognize a soul mate is through their touch. A soul mate's skin on yours can feel tingly, or if you are receptive enough to the energy exchange between you, it will be downright electric. This is due to the magnetic pull toward each other that we have, which is created by this love energy connection that we have built up over many lifetimes. I have heard people describe the sensation of someone brushing past them that felt like a jolt, a handshake that took their breath away, or a kiss that felt like an explosion. This is soul mate stuff.
One of the worst things that we can endure romantically is when only one of the soul mates recognizes and feels this connection. Unfortunately, not only is this possible, but it is actually more common than we all might wish. Sometimes this occurs because one of the soul mates is distracted, angry, or otherwise has a veil over their heart and mind that does not allow them to be open to the often still, small and subtle soul mate clues.
Also, it is important to remember that there is such a thing as right person, wrong time. Destiny can often seen so cruel, as it feel so amazing to find someone with whom you have a connection like this, and then to have it ripped away from you can be utterly devastating. Sadly, there is nothing you can do in this situation except move on, sending your soul mate your love and wish them well on their journey. Your connection will always remain, as will your love, and perhaps you will meet again at a later time (in this, or a future life) and maybe then they will be ready for you.
What we are working on here with all of this love life drama is to learn to be better at love. In fact, on a basic level, the whole reason we are even here and have gone through all of the trouble to be reincarnated is to learn how to love. And, just as important as the act of giving out our love energy, we also need to equally know how to receive it. And so, it is important to remember when we are grieving the loss of a soul mate, either from having been separated once more by the inevitability of death, or from a lack of readiness or recognition, that your love for each other can never die. But, the lesson needs to continue and we need to keep loving, and being open to love even though we have been hurt before.
Since we have had many lifetimes, and therefore have many loving soul mates, there are always the loves that lie ahead, just down the path. These lost loves have been searching for you, have dreamed of you, and have waited centuries for destiny to allow your paths to cross once more. We need to work on ourselves in order to be ready for them, and have hearts that are open enough to recognize them, or it will be they who grieve and then have to move on. But, when two ready soul mates are reunited, the love energy of this union is unparalleled. Because they didn't fall in love, they simply remembered that they loved each other already.