The Runner is what one of the two twinflames become after the arguments and fights in the beginning of ‘The Dance’ phase of the relationship. The reason and purpose of these arguments is actually very deep. They happen because deep layers of residue from previous lives is being released and transmuted. This takes us get back to being nothing but LOVE…[This is explained further in 'Why Twinflames Argue']
The conscious mind, however, does not understand what is happening deep inside at the soul level. This is what makes the Runner run.
The Runner, who is usually the man, is unable to understand consciously what is happening. This happens because he is not aware of the spiritual reality… so he doesnt know whats happening at the soul level… and his mind gets confused because this is unlike anything that has ever happened to him.
The release of the deep layers of negative emotions and ‘residue’ gives him a feeling of uneasiness. He might not be able to explain this but he just feels ‘irritated’.
He feels that this irritation is caused by the twinflame, when actually the residue which is being released (because it just can’t stay when the twinflame love, which is a much higher energy, comes) is the reason for the irritation.
The runner also feels like he is losing control of himself because he cannot make any sense out of what is happening to him.He tries to figure it out but just can’t. And he gets overwhelmed by the emotions. All this combined makes him want to escape all this and he runs away from the relationship itself.
He starts to think its the other twinflame who is the reason for all this and tries to run away from her in order to escape the ‘uneasyness’ which he probably can’t even explain to himself at this point.
All that he wants is to get away from the ‘bad feeling’.This makes him end the relationship very abruptly which is extreemly painful for the other partner.
The runner, while all this is happening, is simply very confused. He loves his twinflame, but gets overwhelmed by all the confusion and think it is because of her. His mind doesnt know what is going on. He hasn’t been in something like this ever before, and doesnt know what to do.So he runs.
The runner’s behaviour is something he himself can’t really explain. It is totally unexpected by the other twinflame who then becomes ‘The Chaser’.If you ask a runner what exactly he is trying to do, he probably won’t be able to tell you. Why? because he himself doesnt know. He just knows that he wants to escape the relationship. He’ll probably give you some silly ‘logic’ if you really ask for it… but in reality its just that he is confused.
His heart tells him to stay, because he does feel the love, but he thinks its better to go with the mind. Being a man (which most runners are), he is conditioned to suppress his feelings and go with ‘logic’… and he can see no logic in staying in something that’s causing him so much trouble.
Ultimately, however, the Runner does realize the sacred nature of the relationship (after he’s done the running, which can go on for upto years)… and he then returns.And that is when the reunion happens…And that’s where their eternal ‘Happily ever after’ begins…